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writes:Our friends told me that the guy I like drunkenly told them he liked me but since then he hasn't said a word to me and seems to be actively going out his way to avoid me has he decided he doesn't like me what do I do it's been a week now and I miss talking to him?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 October 2015):
 I've found another post to illustrate my point here: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-am-falling-in-love-with-my-housemate.html
As I told that woman, don't drink for a month, go out clubbing by all means but don't drink. Do that for a month then get back to us.
How are classes going, by the way?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 October 2015):
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/a-little-crush-has-led-to-me-actually.html The vomit cuddle guy, I'm assuming?
I think vomit cuddle guy has an alcohol problem, knows it, and is avoiding you because a) he can't remember what he said or did and is having to endure a lot of flak from everyone else because he said something he can't remember saying and has no idea how to cope with it beyond retreating into a silent sulk
b) he does remember what he did and is too embarrassed to face you
c) he only gets touchy feely when drunk and can't be bothered otherwise
If you like him and can deal with the repercussions of being rejected, ask him out. If you can't deal with the repercussions then mirror his actions and avoid him as well.
Or best choice in my opinion is to carry on, don't hang out with him when he's drunk and do spend time with him when he's sober, be bright and cheerful and let things develop in time. Don't push or rush or expect him to be able to ask you out if you aren't prepared to ask him out too.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 October 2015):
 I agree with WiseOwlE
I'd let this one go. If he can only talk about his feeling when drunk and seems to avoid you when sober, what's the point?
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (7 October 2015):
 Hi,
sorry to say this, but you cannot be 100% certain that he truly does like you, as he only said that he did, when he was under the influence of alcohol & from a sense of 'proper cognitive thought', he may not have meant what he said and he may have even forgotten what he said.
To be brutally honest, most of us cannot think straight, nor rationally, when wer're tipsy or drunk.
On the contrary, he may well remember what he said and many people do speak the truth when they're under the influence of alcohol, "however", do remember, if he truly wanted to re-connect and get to know you better, you'd think that he'd have done so by now, unless he is feeling somewhat nervous and embarrassed.
If this is the case (and right now, who knows what the absolute truth is and facts are), you would benefit from connecting with him, just the once and see what his next reponse and move is, if at all.
If he is sincerely interested in you, he won't take too long to reply, but if he takes days and days to reply, then you can pretty much rest assured, that he isn't that into you, in which case, i would forget about him and move forward with your life.
There is no point, nor any use, in crying over spilt milk.
Even if things don't turn out as you had hoped/anticipated, this only means, that he wasn't the one for you and that there is somebody much better out there for you.
All the best and let me know how you get on. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2015): Uhm, I have a different take on this. He's only got nerve when he's drunk. I think you ought to pass on this one.
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