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He hasn't orgasmed inside me for ages and always wants me to finish him off, orally or with my hand. Why is this???

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Question - (16 October 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 16 October 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Hi there -this is one for the guys. Any help gentlemen would be very much appreciated! And women too of course, if you can offer advice!

I have been with my boyfriend over two years, and we have always had a pretty good sex life - though not as exciting as it used to be, normal I guess.

Recently Ive noticed that he seems to get bored after having sex for a while. Well bored isnt the right word - he is still turned on and wants to 'finish off' - but he doesnt seem to want to be inside me any more. He starts off v hard and v turned on, and after maybe 5 minutes of having sex he doesnt seem that hard any more. He either wants me to finish him off with my hand or mouth, of he will make himself cum while touching me in some way, and will come on me. He hasnt cum inside me for ages. Why is this??? I dont understand - its still good, we both still enjoy it, but isnt it more normal to want to cum inside your girlfriend??? Does it feel better for men to have a hand or a mouth on them rather than a vagina?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006):

I think the best thing to do when it comes to sex is to have an open and honest discussion with your boyfriend about this, because only he can answer these questions for her because it has to do with him! Is he worried about pregnancy? Is he under a lot of stress? Has he turned to porn? Who know but he himself...good luck, and tell him what you prefer!

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A female reader, Acaringear +, writes (16 October 2006):

hi there..

I am a woman - but can I ask you a couple of questions:

1) does he now use a lot of porn?

My boyfriend does (we are splitting up!) and he can only come when I am on top - never when he is on top - I have never ever had this with anyone else. He watches porn constantly and there is a phenomenon called errectile dysfunction when the penis is desensitised. He comes when I masterbate him or he does or I go on top but never the missionary.

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2) just a thought - is he trying to avoid pregnancy?

Hope that gives you a few different things to think about.

Good luck

xx

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A female reader, Katylouise +, writes (16 October 2006):

most men love to cum inside the vagina so this is quite a tough one! have fore play before hand and then take control and tel him u want him inside you and when he does tell him not to stop as its so amazing and clench your pelvic muscles when hes inside you and it should make you appear tighter which willpleasure you both

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2006):

hello

how are u

i think u will now change ur style of doing sex it with him and don't give him more lift and when u doing it with him use new ways and don't ever take it in ur mouth or hand

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