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writes:I'm in love with my best friend. We have been friends since second grade and I've liked him since sixth. I think he likes me too but he already has two people he is interested in, both girls. I don't want to lose the friendship if my observation is wrong. I would be devastated if I lost him. When he talks about guys hitting on him it sounds like he doesn't like it. He has told me he is bi and he knows I'm gay. Should I tell him how i feel?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (27 October 2011):
 I agree with Honeypie. If your friend is actively pursuing girls... I wouldn't say anything to him... at least for now.
Perhaps at some later point, when/if you are having an intimate/personal conversation with him you might say something like... would you ever date me or something like that. just to get his reaction. If it's more positive than negative, then you can tell him how you've felt about him... for so long. Otherwise... you're probably going to have to look elsewhere.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (25 October 2011):
 if he really is bi then besides him telling you have there been any other signs?
its impossible for us to tell if he is interested in you AS you haven't given us a description of his behaviour towards you that would suggest attraction on his part.
just because a person is bi doesn't automatically mean they are willing to do anything about it, OR that they would be instantly interested in a romantic relationship with their gay friend. we need more evidence please.
i'm not saying that its not the case, simply that you need to show us examples of his behaviour that would suggest he is interested in you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 October 2011):
If he is actively pursuing girls, I would not tell him about your feelings. I think he already knows you like like him, but he hasn't reciprocated. I think he wants to "just" be friends.
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