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writes: i have a strange problem, i get along very well wth my bf we have no problems we love each other a lot but he has a friend(girl)not girlfriend he hangs out wth her and he told me that they are just good frnds, i told him i dont like it maybe iam jealous but i kind of feel he has a soft corner 4 her, he told me he just likes the way she is but he likes me in a completely diff way, he told me that he is not gonna hang out once we get married, should i just trust him or tell him never to see her again
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): You never say how old either of you are and it doesnt sound like jelousy to me it sounds like you are being on your guard as you should be. Yes males can have friends of any sex as so can females but usually they all join up and meet as couples and leave as couples. Try to make friends with this girl and see what she is about instead of jumping in both feet first and making a fool of yourself if your worries lead to nothing. Try talking to your fella about your worries and make sure that he understands that having this lady hanging around in your relationship may have devestating conciquences to you both. It may lead to arguements and distrust, ask him if he has to meet her could you join them, explain that right now you are uncertain of thier relationship and just need to see how they interreact with each other. If he complains and says no i would start to question this in your mind and ask yourself before you marry this man do you really no all there is to know about this man. If the answer is no then i would truly wait the idea of marriage is every girls dream but living that dream after that day with each other can turn into a nightmare.
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reader, skywalker +, writes (7 November 2006):
hi..try to hang with his friend(girl) and c how he is with her..jealousy is cute but dont go overboard doing it.Mayb they r just good friends.Trust him once but not blindly bcoz sometimes fast friends turn lovers quickly.keep ur guard up
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2006): It's not a strange problem at all, you are human! I wouldn't like it is my boyfriend had a friend (girl). They do have them, but not to the point where they hang about together. Point out that you don't mind them being friends, beside she was probably around before you, but can she be pushed a bit more into the background. If she has a boyfriend then maybe she won't want to spend so much time around your bloke anyway. Try and keep things in perspective, especially in your head. If things don't change then ask yourself if he really is the one for you. Do you really want to spend you life with him with madam in the shadows, I WOULD NOT. You mention "married', er get things cleared up long before the engagement ring appears. Best wishes and take care.
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