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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello :) Im in a bit of a situation - basically i have such a huge crush on this lovely, sweet, cute guy, but he has no idea of my existence cause he's in love with my friend. He's very publicly fancied her for like the last 3 years, but she's not interested in anything other than being friends with him. Obviously its quite upsetting for me and i don't really know what to do. Is there any point me trying to persue this? if so, how? any advice would be lovely, thank you :)
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (22 March 2011):
You know what his feelings are for your friend, but you don't know what his feelings are for you. It is possible that he only has eyes for your friend, but when I was 17 I had a crush on lots of different girls. I understand you hesitating because you don't want to go out with a guy who is really in love with someone else, or who is dating you just to be close to your friend, which sometimes happens. Sometimes though it also happens that a guy might fancy someone, but ends up going out with someone else and as he gets to know them better, and develop feelings for them, all thoughts of other girls he was interested in before fade away. Depends on how your feelings grow over time. I would say you should base your decision on your feelings. If you really feel like you want to give it a go with him despite the risks, make the opportunity to get to spend time with him where you can get to know him better and let him get to know you, and let him know how you feel when the time is right and see if he has any feelings for you. If you feel that he doesn't really like you and that you will end up getting hurt, I would understand if you didn't want to take the risk.If you have the courage, you can tell him how you feel, but be ok with whatever happens, whether you end up having a relationship with him or not. Be true to your feelings and don't be afraid to express them even if you don't get what you want, at least you have been true to yourself. Good luck.
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