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*ovesickpup
writes:hello there,I have a really puzzling situation atm, ive been sort of seeing this lad hes 19 gorgeous has his own place and is really nice to me. when we first met i thought id start off our friendship or relationship with being honest and i told him all the bad stuff that has happened to me.i have stopped over at his house 4 times within the last month and he has never tried a thing, he has just cuddled me (which is nice) but he never tries anything and sometimes i wish he would as he is really nice looking. but the last two times i have been there he has had two lovebites on his neck and its really starting to bug me. as i dont know why he has me round if he dont try anything or tel me where i stand or why he keeps having these lovebites on his neck. i really dont know what to do or say i have text and asked him where i stand but he never replies and then a couple of days later he will ask me to come round like he always doeshelp what do i do?
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Well, obviously if there are lovebites on his neck then someone is biting his neck...
It doesn't seem to bother you too much? You seem more concerned that he has never tried anything with you.
He likes you, or he wouldn't ask you round. Right now he doesn't see you as "girlfriend" material - or maybe he does but he's scared that he might frighten you off if he tries anything.
If you like him in that sort of way, then ASK him - point at the lovebite on his neck and say "Who did that to you?" It doesn't really matter what his answer is - you can say in a rather hurt voice, "You never asked ME to bite your neck!" and then giggle.
That achieves two things. First it tells him in a joking way that doesn't HAVE to be serious or to spoil your friendship that you do really like him in that way, and secondly it opens the conversation to (careful) discussion about whether he has a "proper" girlfriend. You need to know that, don't you? You also need to know whether he simply wants to "play around" rather than have any sort of real relationship with you or anyone else - and then, if he IS interested in you (in whatever way), you can make an informed decision on whether you are interested in him in the same way.
Did that make any sense?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (27 June 2008):
 Sweetie, I think that you are more of a friend to him than a girlfriend.... this is why he has never tried anything with you. If you want to know where you stand in this relationship you must ask him face to face, perhaps he doesnt want to tell you that hes not interested cos he likes you as a friend and doesnt want to hurt you.
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