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writes:I just split from my boyfriend last week. We didn't live together but he spent most of his time at mine. Recently I've been feeling like he takes me for granted. He doesn't earn a lot of money so whenever we did anything it was on me. He didn't really help me in the house too much either and I generally felt like my only role was to look after him. Despite this he was affectionate. Last week I decided enough was enough and I ended it. But now I feel so lost without out him. He doesn't understand how I feel and has completely ignored me since we split. He has made no effort to try and reconcile our relationship. In our last conversation he told me he does want to sort it but doesn't know how!? He said that he misses me but doesn't want to make a decision based only on that. Do you think he still loves me or his he just taking the cowards way out. Should I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): You don't end a relationship then wonder why the other person ain't trying to sort it out. That is playing with anothers head.
If he has any sense he will steer clear of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): You cant change who a person is. If he hasn't done the things you want him to do in the first place he never will. Although you still love him I would suggest cutting your losses and moving on.
You'll find someone who can treat you right!
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reader, iwannaloveme  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 im only 18 and i have a boyfriend who dont have a job, still in high school while im in college, its crazy...
it gets very frustrating to c how he cant do nothing for me. it makes me wanna go to other guys.
but befor we went official i knew wat i was dealing with and i still went out with hm and still learned to love him.
but as a man, his job is to protect u, take care of you and love you. if he cant take care of you than he is not the one u need to be with.
dnt take me wrong. u have to be with someone u like/love, i dnt mean go out there and look for someone with money but if a man can climb on top of u, tell u he loves you, promises to be there than he should be able to take care of you.
i just broke up with my boyfrien of 7 months but we might be getting back together and if we dnt, i have nothing to lose. i really did care about him and loved him/still do but he doesnt have nothing to offer, he cant do anything for me. i decided to let him go and if he comes back than maybe we're meant to be if not than ill try to get over him
thers no reason why as a female u need to sit ther and take care of a man. he needs to be a man, takes care of his gurl... u too need to take care of eachother... dnt take care of him if he not taking care of u...
one more thing is that, if he really cared about u, the same way u made sacrifices to take care of him and give him wat he wants and needs, he would do the same for u... but he wanna sit there and take from u... he lowering his self standards by doing that...
about getting back together i dunno about that unless u love him and hes willing to change for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): cowards way out?
you broke up with him.
you chose to end it despite any feelings he had for you.
he's probably very mixed up right now, he trusted you and now he's had that thrown back in his face!
he's hurting, and you should give him some space. tell him you made a mistake and would like to try again, but dont be surprised if he never takes you back.
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