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writes:My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months and she just broke up with me because I lied to her about my past. I had told her that I cheated on my gf that I had in high school(4 years ago) but left out until now that I cheated twice and I slept with one of the girls. Also I never told her her until now that I have slept with my ex from high school on and off up until a couple months before we got together because I didn't want my past to influence our new relationship. I love this girl and would never cheat on her. I have learned from my mistakes in the past and grown up but she has lost her trust in me and does not beleive me that I am over my ex even though I have cut ties with her or that I will be honest with her. How can I get her to beleive me that I love her and only her?
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reader, stacey.m06  +, writes (16 February 2007):
you need to sit her down and explain the full reasons why you didnt tell her about your past. you obviously had good reasons for this. everyone keeps secrets from their past that they are ashamed of. you have clearly changed your ways and you need to show her this. tell her how much you love her, and dont stop trying. even if you are still seperated, make her see that you are worth keeping. if she is willing to meet up and talk, tell her every liitle thing about your past and encourage her to do the same and hopefully you can start a fresh with a clean slate. if not try to remain friends and prove you can be a loyal friend to her. be there for her but dnt push anything. if she sees you can be a good friend then that might put her insecurities at rest. good luck xx
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (16 February 2007):
 you cannot hide the truth forever you know. might as well tell her everything now, than let wounds heal then open up again. tell the truth now, the truth sets you free. whether or not she believes you or not, you will feel lighter. its up to you actually to tell her now or later
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