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*ittlemissme
writes:i have only recently started dating a married man i met in a social circle of friends at a sporting event . we have so much in common and were attracted to each other instantly ... a week after our meet he traveled over to see me and stayed the night and again after a holiday with his wife made arrangements to stay another 2 nights and three days with myself and my two children. he has met my parents already altho the bit about him being a married man has not been up for discussion. he loves my kids to bits already and acts like their father would do if they had one. he says he loves his wife and like most men says he's not happy. i have read all the threads on the forum about the problems of dating a married man. my question is this........ his wife DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE KIDS !! EVER.. this has been made clear. and he does want to have kids.. he has jokinly told her he will have kids with or without her!!! we have chatted about the possiblitys of me getting pregnant and the consequences it could make with both parties... he says he would be the happiest man alive if he had a baby to me.... and would leave his wife for his child!... but i am not stupid as i know he would not leave his wife for me alone ( i dont think) even tho he says if he got caught he would walk no problem.....not sure if there is a question in this or rather just airing some thoughts on my current situation... any help or advice would be great
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): I honestly think that you should leave him alone. You are already a single mother with 2 children. Do you really want to take a chance like that and have another baby with him just for him to leave her?? He might leave her but, would you trust him? Or would it be like everytime he leaves from you and your children would you think he had someone else on the side too?? If he would do it to her the woman he promised his life too then he would do it to you. I have been down this road before and it isn't fun. I am married to a wonderful man who does everything that he can for me and my children. He loves me, he repects me, and loves our kids. I got into a relationship with a married man and I was even considering leaving my husband for this man. But, I thought about everything. He has 3 kids, I have 3 kids, and I wouldn't trust him and I don't think that he would have trusted me either if we would have done what we were planning. He was going to leave her for me and I was going to leave my husband for him. We were together for almost a year. At first, the sneaking around and secret meet ups were fun and exciting. Then we developed feelings for each other. I got tired of the lies, cheating, and broken promises!! He promised me things that he couldn't do for me. I got fed up with it and said the hell with him. You need to do the same. Find a single man with no kind of attachments at all that would be good to you and your kids. Think about your children. You don't want them to get attached to this married man and him walk out on them. It isn't right. Trust me on this one!
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reader, Twirly +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Sweetheart, he should leave his wife anyway!
If he is with her, and seeing you, it's not fair to you and your kids or to his wife.
He's not behaving well at all here, please be careful. My advice would be to stop seeing him until he is single, I know how harsh that sounds but it really is the only answer.
You deserve a boyfriend who doesn't have a wife! x x x
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reader, Dawnie +, writes (16 April 2008):
 God it amazes me there are some gullible fools out there!
he is MARRIED dear, you know commited to someone else, i am not surprised you have not told your parents that he is married, i don't suppose they would be impressed and would suddenly find him to be the cheating creep he really is and i am sure they would see you in a different light. Trying to break up a marriage is not nice and speaks volumes of the type of person you are. Nobody HAS to fall in love with a married person, it's down to choice and you will get no sympathy from me.
If you have a baby with him picture the scene in a few months/years,you at home with kids and him out getting his leg over with what ever cheap lay he can get.
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reader, chiara  +, writes (16 April 2008):
I also am a single mother with two children. The way I became pregnant is my children's father said he wanted to have kids with me because his girlfriend could not have any. he also said he would leave her. He never left. She ended up leaving him. We did end up moving in together but it did not work out, why, because he cheated. If you do decide to have a baby with him be careful. Men have no problem backing out of their committments.
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reader, LC_2008  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 This man is married.......... end of story in my opinion. Just because he is not happy with his wife does not mean that he would be any happier with you. When it comes down to it, once a cheater always a cheater... You deserve to have someone who is independent and can be around you when you need them, not someone who has to plan so his wife doesnt find out.
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