A
female
age
30-35,
*eatless93
writes:So here is my story; In the beginning of June my boyfriend broke his phone, he has been jobless and his parents have kicked him out quite a few times, and also his car broke down. So basically we haven't really talked, and when we do its every other Saturday or Sunday. I also have no way to get to him since my car broke down too. So we are both going through a lot of shit. The other day i checked his Facebook (that he supposedly never gets on) and this girl posted a picture on his wall of her wearing his glasses saying "I found your glasses :D" and me being a concerned girlfriend did a little research on who she was. She is his best friends, girlfriends, sister. So that same day, I went over to see him by borrowing my parents car, he had marks right under his ears and his shoulder and cheek, and when I asked about it he said it was from basketball, i said I find that really hard to believe and he said "oh yea? well i have it on my face too you cant get hickies on your face"...I really don't understand how you can get marks that look like hickies from basketball...I was then too scared to hear an answer about the girl and his glasses so I didn't ask. He also was trying to make me feel bad because I post sad things like "I miss him" on Facebook, because like he says "I know he's going through a lot of shit and i am not giving him enough time"....Is a month not enough time apart for you to get your shit together? Also, a couple of friends have told me that he has gone to parties and flirted with a few girls and probably even made out with some. So I really don't know what to believe anymore, and was hoping maybe you guys can help me get a clear answer...Do you think he's cheating or not?
View related questions:
best friend, facebook, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 July 2013):
 “me being a concerned girlfriend did a little research on who she was”
REALLY.. that’s what concerned girlfriends do… they RESEARCH their boyfriend’s unknown friends?
I don’t think so beatless93…. That’s’ your way to say you snooped because you don’t’ trust this guy.
So let me get this straight, your boyfriend is homeless, jobless, phoneless (no landlines or payphones or friends phones around) and you have face to face contact once every other week on one day.
He is covered in hickies and you know this and yet you are TOO SCARED to ask him for the truth… YOU KNOW in your heart what’s going on….
I had a mark once that looked like a hickie and was on my neck…. I burned myself with a curling iron…. ONE small mark… but multiple marks… you know what’s going on.. this is NOT a boyfriend.
“not giving him enough time” SERIOUSLY you see him once every 14 days or so IF YOU MAKE THE EFFORT
A man in love would not tolerate being apart from his love for a month… not even a week to be honest.
Whether or NOT he is cheating (and I’m betting he is) he is a lousy ‘boyfriend’ who is not that into you and will take what you offer as long as it meets his needs…. I would end it as soon as you can.
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (8 July 2013):
 This relationship is SO much more drama than it's worth. The guy isn't interested and is playing you. If he wanted to see you, he would. Making a laundry list of weird excuses is just that, excuses. I know people who find a way to see each other once a month who live thousands of miles away. Time to cut your losses with this guy.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2013): I'm not sure if he's cheating, but I don't think he is overly interested in you.
You're so young, please go out there and spend time with guys who will appreciate you! :)
...............................
A
male
reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (8 July 2013):
 This guy sounds like a mess. He will lower ur self esteem. I kno u american women like 'project' men to put together but pls save urself time n energy n let him go.
...............................
A
male
reader, dougbcoll +, writes (8 July 2013):
 well its one thing to be down on your luck, and its another when the parents have to kick him out more than once.if he is cheating you may not get honest answers from him, even if you want to believe him. have you caught him in lies before? has he tried to cover up things with stories before? you need to look at his character. what i mean by that is does he lie quite often, how does he treat you, how does he treat his parents. if he treats his parents bad, he more than likely will do the same to you eventually. why has his parents kicked him out several times, it had to be for a big reason. it may pay for you to slow down with this guy and look at the big whole picture. marks on face or not from basket ball? your heart is wanting to be with him and trust him, but your brain is telling you to use caution that things don't add up. you may need to slow down ,and use caution.
...............................
|
