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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have serious trust issues after several past boyfriends have cheated so i could not help myself when i checked my current partners emails. we've been together a year and a half i live with one another. What i found has really upset and confused me. I have found emails to other men trying to arrange to meet up for sexual experiences, stating his girlfriend (me) is unaware of his curiosities. I consider even going with someone of your own gender as cheating but have no evidence the meetings occured. some of the messages were dated just 2 days after our 1st anniversary, how do i resolve this without admitting i read his emails. i have even considered setting a new email account and pretending to be a local man to arrange a meeting to see if he turns up. Please help. :(
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (26 December 2006):
 Does it matter if he gets angry about you reading his emails.
He is interested in Men! You cannot ever compete with that or work it out. You are not make that way!!!
Sorry to say sweatie, but wether or not you discuss this with your boyfriend, it is time to move on.
Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): I would gather from his e-mails that he is probably bi-sexual, if you are not, then I think that perhaps this is not the man or the relationship for you...I don't think you need any more "proof" by setting up a meeting under false pretenses, this would be highly confrontational and it would not solve anything except perhaps to get back at your boyfriend for lying to you.
Your boyfriend might even be gay and be in denial and that is why he is experimenting while with you...it happens and if he is gay I suppose he cannot help this, it is just a shame that he met you before he figured this all out for himself, and his intentions were probably not to hurt you, he is just confused about his own sexuality.
I think you should move out and let him go, and I don't know that you even have to bring up the e-mails, just say that you suspect that he likes men and you have your reasons..that is all.
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