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writes:I live with someone whom I love very much, he says he loves me in his own way, he has been hurt very badly in the past by 3 other girlfriends, do you think I have a chance with him or should I go? Reply to this Question
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reader, missyrenee  +, writes (8 December 2008):
Anyone that tells you "I love you in my own way" isn't "in love" with you and if that is what you are searching for..it's definately time to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): me personaly guys tend to use this as an excuse,we`ve all been hurt in the past by 1 or more partner but it doesnt make him incapable of loving you,just incapable of being commited to you i found this out with my ex even though i constantly told him how much i love him i spent my entire time reassuring him only to be dumped sneakly
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): The aunts who have already answered are right, if he says he loves you, you most probably do have a chance with him. just take things slowly and reasure him whenever possible.if your a good cook, why not cook him a nice romantic dinner? go out together as much as possible. i love going for walks so maybe that might be an idea? it can be really nice walking next to each other just holding hands, dont even need to talk much. how about going away for the weekend together? just some ideas...its already a good start if you live together, so he must trust you even if right now he cant 100%.i hope that our advise helps you and that it works out for the two of you.good luck and let us know how it goes xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): I think you do have a chance but it's going to be very hard at first because of the fact that he has been hurt. I think you need to not only let him know you would not hurt him like his past girlfriends did but also you need to show him so he can become to trust again. But you need to take it slow with him. I am in the same boat. If you really love him go for it. Just don't let him down and become girlfriend #4 who broke his heart. Good luck =)
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reader, Chippymunk  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 Yes, I believe you do have a chance, but since he has been hurt in the past, it'll take more time for him to feel comfortable enough to go through the steps. I'm sure he wants to love you too but is just being cautious to avoid being hurt again. I think the best thing you can do is show him that you're unlike his previous girlfriends and that you really care about him. Of course this will be a slow process so patience will be needed =)
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