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writes:I am 39 years of age and my partner is 20... I have never had problems with sex before but the difference in our attitudes is stressing me out. He has a very strong interest in pornography etc and for me it turns me off... is this due to the difference in our ages???
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): i think that the male is just a bit to open minded
but if he is gave a chance he and the both of them could work it out
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): When it comes to porn consumers, I think males of varying ages view pornography. (20,40, 60!) Anon female reader below, brings up a very good point, dear. You have a specific principle about what you want in your love life. Nothing wrong with that! In fact..that's good because when we are faced with hard choices, our ideals and ethics set out a much clearer life path for us. So putting aside the age difference for a moment, if you feel that you don't want porn as a part of your relationship and he really likes it, then it's very obvious-you and he have very different relationship ideals and values. Therefore you both are not compatible. Porn is pervasive in a lot of relationships and if you read a lot of the postings that come into this site..porn can and will shake up many relationships in a negative way. You have to make a decision. Do you continue with a man who views it? It could cause continuing resentment and drive a wedge into your relationship, now and in the future. If he's younger, he may not have the maturity, the knowlege, nor skills (yet) of understanding about compromise and negotiation in a love relationship.You and he have to talk and see if you both can get by this huge issue and the other differences, in your relationship. If not, you may be better off with a more mature man closer to your age and shares your worldview. . Good luck, hun
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): not in your age but theres is in your ethics and integrity....either he just doesnt care that he is particpating in the degradation of women or he is too stupid to understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2007): Not really your age, except that pornography is much more pervasive now due to the internet.....young boys have grown up with it and it is their form of sexual education sadly....
I think pornography is very degrading to women and desensitizes men to this sort of devaluation of women, they stop thinking of as human beings and we become less imortant than a door knob....there are plenty of 20 year olds who are not really into porn, you just happen to have one who is...by the way, I have had a huge age gap relationship myself, and my guy was not into porn, and was very sweet, and emotionally open and that is what I loved about him.
In my opinion a 20 year old is not a real man, he is a boy experimenting with his sexuality and trying to become a man, you on the other hand are a full fledged woman....the gap becomes less important in a few years, but 29 is very very young for a man, he is a boy I am afraid, so that more than anything is probably what is turning you off if you were honest with yourself....that and the porn, I find it a turn off too.
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