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writes: My husband has a twitch which involves making a noise in his throat and muttering under his breath.He had it when he was young and over the past few years it has come back again.I am very concerned as I have a nine month old and I do not want him to pick it up. I have talked about this to my husband but he juct then does it even more. He seems to be doing it to irritate me. I has got to the stage where it is driving me mad. As you can imagine, living with a continuous noise in the background would!The trouble is I know he can control it as he won't do it in certain situations and I have noticed that he will do it more when he is trying to annoy me(HE WATCHES ME WHILE HE IS DOING IT!) or he will stop doing it when he wants something ie sex! What really gets to me is he won't try to control it in front of our young son.I do not understand as before, when we were young I didn't mind him having this twitch and it gradually went away, but it seems that as soon as something life changing happens ie marriage, change of job, having a baby; it seems to come back again. Why can't he asccept that he is an adult and has responsibilities?He has also recently become quite a lazy bastard around the house. He will say make a cup of tea love' in front of friends and family and it is embarassing. He will also expect me to make all decisions. I feel like I should be a single parent, because apart from financial, I have to do everything. I feel like I have two children!He has expressed for the first time today that I give the baby more attention than him, but I would if that is how I am treated !I feel he may be doing all this to get negative attention like a child with ADHD! HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2006): Your comment about not taking responsibility is a man thing. He now sees you as a mum! If there is a mum in the house why shouldhe do anything? I don't havean answer and if anyone does I would be grateful because my hubby is doing my head in like you I feel like I have an extra child. Regarding his tick it sounds to be stress induced. Maybe knowing it annoys you means that when it happens involuntary he worries and then it makes it worse. That would explain him watching you. It obviously goes away when hewants sex because he is relaxed. I don't think it's just to annoy you. Isugest you just ignore it because then it won'tbe an issue. Prentend you have no issue with it or haven't noticed. And kid are very adaptable I don't think it's soething you have to worry about you child copying and if he does it wil not be perminant. You need to chill for yourself!
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