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writes:Here we go again. So I used to like this guy A LOT. I was or maybe still am on and off with liking him. When he didn't have a girlfriend I didn't want him to know that I liked him but somehow it got out and he gave me his number. I am the type of person who really plays hard to get, so I really don't like to show a lot of my feelings toward a person that I like. Anyways,we always flirted with each other. We were really cool friends. Now he has a girlfriend. She is not the best out of the bunch. I absolutely can't stand her. She gets mad when a girl talks to him or even asks him a question and then she gets all suspicious. I can tell that he doesn't like her and he tells me a lot of things when we are on the phone about her that should be left unsaid. He just doesn't want to break up with her because he doesn't want to face the outcome. I don't know what to do. I am really feeling this guy and I know he really likes me too. I can tell by the way he always stares at me and they way he can just be open when we are on the phone. It really is time for me to open up and tell him how I feel. I just don't know how. Can anyone help me with this situation, please?
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reader, Soconfused234 +, writes (6 January 2011):
Soconfused234 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for your wonderful answers!
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reader, xanthic +, writes (29 December 2010):
 It's up to him to grow up and end it with her if he's really that unhappy in the relationship. Until then, don't tell him how you feel. It'll only complicate an already messy situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I would just simply tell him how you feel. Honesty is best! Plus that may evn give him a reason to leave his current girlfriend especially if he likes you just as much as you like him.Just go for it! What's the worst that can happen! Good luck 2 u!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): I will advise you keep your space and respect the relationship. Even though he may not be happy in it, it's important that if he makes the decision to stay in or get out, that he doesn't have any outside influence, otherwise he risks making the decision for the benefit of someone else (yourself) and not him, which should be his priority, with all due respect to you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Please don't tell him you like him. That gives him the power and you become an item he can choose. Keep being friends and continue flirting with him, but also flirt with another guy. The importance is to support his decision to stay with his girlfriend. Meanwhile keep the conversation light. Keep talking about things that interest him, things that grab his attention. Like the new concert, football game or a brand of car he likes. This is not really to get him jealous but to give him a time sensitive urgency that if he doesn't break up with his girlfriend then you will be snatched away by another guy any minute.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): Let things with his current girlfriend run their course before you try to take things any farther. Trust me, you don't want the kind of guy who will leave his girlfriend for you, because then who's to say he won't one day leave you for the next best thing to come along?
Not a good precedent to set... and not good karma, either ;)
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