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writes:Hi , my prob i that i have been in a long distance relationship since 2 years, n in that period we had several breakups n makeups..which dint really mattered much as we both knew that we were not actually "seeing each other". The prob is that the guy is a big flirt n he has a gf in his city also.Its just that it was my 1st relationship n kinda sumthn very special to me.I just cudnt let him go out of my life though now i really want to do a fresh start. I am unable to end this so called relationship on phone as i am quite attached to him now.How can i get him out of my head??? Also, he is coming to my city next month and am quite unsure about what to do?I love him but he is just casual.. :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI read your comments.Thanks a lot, they gave me a new outlook towards my so-called relation.Its just that I have more facts to share, I used to be a tomboy in my younger years.And as the writer of the third comment says..I used to be as stern I could be with a guy.Its just this was the first person in my life who challenged my thought-process and show me what it is like to be in a relationship.It was so new and fresh (Though for him it was just another fling, n I was stupid enough not to realize it!) Anyways, the problem now is that I want to move on but I am finding it damn hard! He says he could be the best boy-friend but he just can't commit!!And,of course , hey says he loves me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Yes, he is casual - he has his cake and is eating it. This relationship will not amount to anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): The problem with a lot of girls your age is that you don't earn any respect. I'm only in the next bracket up.
Start treating yourself as more important than him.
It amazes me how many girls put up with crap from men thinking that they are miraculously going to change.
The only way they might change is if you get stern with them and say this isn't on. You either want me or you don't. I wan't to get on with my own life and I don't like being treated as a door mat. The longer you hang around and have make ups and break ups as you say, the longer you are selling yourself short. Get over it and move on. You will find someone else. If you keep putting up with this, and you say you know he doesn't really care, then the less chances you have to find MR Right. Mr Right could be at the local nightclub now, but instead your wasting your time on something that's a load of crap!! Get over yourself, and start doing us women proud. It's about time women started calling the shots. Until you start doing this, you'll end up an old woman with no husband.
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