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writes: I'm a college student and I'm bi. I get to know a guy few months ago and we get along very well, as if we've known each other for years. We have mutual understanding, care for each other, and we can talk about anything. He has a gf and they are getting along pretty well. I have to admit I have some special feelings towards him. Sometimes he also give me some signals that he feels the same too. I can feel the chemistry between us, but sometimes it's just like brotherhood. I'm very confused. Should I express my feelings towards him or I should just keep it to myself? I'm afraid I might freak him out and I'm not ready to lose him. Or is there any way I can test his feelings towards me without alarming him? Reply to this Question
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reader, _flicky  +, writes (20 December 2006):
 Be careful. Ask yourself - is there really chemistry between you, or do you think that there is chemistry simply because you like him? Has he ever mentioned that he is bi too?
Maybe there really is chemistry between you. But you also mentioned he gets on well with his gf, which would probably mean he wouldn't risk what he had with her for a new relationship, which is always fraught with risks.
Perhaps you could try flirting mildly with him, and if he seemed uncomfortable you would know he wasn't attracted to you. But if he responds, you could be onto a winner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Well i hope he is bi or it wont work out so hot but you sould totally tell him but try not to be so blut and strait forward about it! you should exspress yourself completely. i'm sure he has fellings for you but is not telling you because he wants to be loyal to hes girl friend.
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