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writes:I'll try to make this short and sweet. About 4/5 years ago I started dealing with a high school friend. We were dealing with each other for a little over 2 years when I found out he had a girlfriend. Who turned out to be a girl we went to school with. I was devastated. 2 years of lies. What hurt the most was he denied any involvement with me. So I let it go. I didn't fight to prove any point because I knew the context of our relationship. Fast forward a year and we started speaking again. He basically told me I gave up too easily. But I refuse to fight for someone who wouldn't do the same for me. We did sleep together once but that was it. Since then I moved away and came back. That was a year and half ago. But now I find myself thinking about him. I miss him I won't lie. What he did to me was dirty and inconsiderate. I can't deny I miss our friendship. But he and the girlfriend are now expecting a child. I just don't know what to do or how I should proceed if at all. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all so much. I really needed those words
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2015): hi he is not worth your time he had his chance with you and he blew it his loss not yours you deserve so much better
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 July 2015):
 Two suggestions:
1. " I just don't know what to do or how I should proceed if at all."..... Don't proceed. AND, if you get weak and plan to do so.... remember:
2. "What he did to me was dirty and inconsiderate." And keep repeating this to yourself, until your weak moment passes....
He's not worth your time or attention... AND, now has a "family".... Don't be a homewrecker....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 July 2015):
 Oh jeeez girl, let this asshat GO. Kick him out of your life, out of your heart and you mind.
WHY on earth waste ANY more time on a guy who REALLY deep down DO NOT care for or about you?
You are his rodeo clown. Someone to distract and entertain him when nothing else is going on. THAT is how he sees you, and more importantly HOW he treats you.
FUNNY that he "blames" you for the period of not talking ( YOU gave up to fast)... Seriously? You should have stuck around and let him carve his initials a little deeper in your heart?
Guys is a douche. And he is wanting to cheat on his PREGNANT gf. I mean seriously if he treats HER the way he does, HOW would he treat you? Certainly not any better.
HE has nothing to offer you. Nothing.
Find someone else to be friends with, this guy isn't worthy.
You may miss the attention, but that is EASILY replaced.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (10 July 2015):
 You need to forget about this guy. He is a liar who hasn't gotten his priorities straight. He has knocked up a girl and instead of focusing on being a faithful father, he is rekindling old flames and my hunch is because he wants to string you up for sex. He hid you in the past, denied you and blames you for it and is doing the same now that he needs to be a father. Look what he has done to his GF, do you want to take her place?
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reader, like I see it +, writes (10 July 2015):
 What you do is stay far away from this guy. He lied to you for two years while going home to the girlfriend he was cheating on. Now he wants you around for more lies while he cheats on the same girlfriend. Now that you have gotten to see a pattern in how he treats this girlfriend... do you really want to be the next "girlfriend" in this situation? What could a guy who would cheat on the pregnant mother of his unborn baby possibly have to offer you?
Feel sorry for his current girlfriend - she's about to have this loser in her life (or chase him through the court system for child support) for the next 18 years. And feel lucky for yourself, because you dodged the proverbial bullet when you let him go the first time.
Be strong and hold out for better, because you deserve it. Good luck and best wishes moving forward!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2015): He sounds manipulative, he told you you gave up to easily? No you did the right thing, walking away when he had someone else, how are you going to find someone who gives you their all when you're chasing an occupied fool?
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