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36-40,
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writes:I just want people's opinions on my boyfriend and my relationship.I'm turning 22 and my BF of 3 years is turned 25 this year. We have lived at his Moms house the entire time. I have been helping out, by giving them money for a bill or two. Its to the point where I don't want to give money. I feel I work hard for it and I'm actually trying to save it but it nearly seems impossible.My BF has me on a 9pm Curfew. He says its out of respect and even if we owned our own place he still told me 9pm out of respect. I didn't do anything when I was 21. I never went out with friends that much, I never really went to any bars, or clubs or have done things 21 years old usually do. He told me if I want to experience that life that I have to experience it with him. I am pretty much not allowed to do that without him. I went to a bar once with my friend who is a girl and he flipped. I cannot stay out past 9pm without him being there. He told me I cannot stay out that late without him there. If hes there then its okay for me to stay out later.I almost have to sneak out do the most innocent things. I told him I was working and that I got off at 10:30pm and he said I didn't get home till 11:30 and he began questioning me about where I was for an hour..If I'm 15min he questions me. He wants to know who I'm texting. He never supports me hanging out with friends. For once I just want him to tell me go have fun instead he says "do what you want." Hes not happy if I hang out, hes just saying it cause he knows I'm not happy at home. I spend every moment with him. On top of that he doesn't encourage me doing anything that doesn't involve him, like being with friends. Its not like we live in separate housing. We live TOGETHER and he has a problem with me going out with friends and on top of that I have to be home at 9pm no matter what. He doesn't get enough. Its been 3 years. Also he doesn't trust me because of my MYSPACE page!! He says hes trying to trust me. He doesn't trust me around a computer "Cause I've done stuff." What do you think???P.S. I have talked to him about the above issues and he is who he is. He is not going to change. I'm planning on leaving him. I'm starting to get depressed cause I have been with him for so long, and I guess you can say - I do care or else I wouldn't be feeling sad, but then again he is treating me like his daughter and not his GF.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 September 2008):
Yeah this guy has problems and if you stay with him you will be a prisoner for ever.Leave him and have friends and fun.NO ONE should EVER tell you what you can and can't do. A real man wouldn't be so incredibly scared of losing you that you can't even go near a computer. That's just pathetic.Good Luck!! xx
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