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writes: Last year, during a camp I attended, I met the most amazing guy. He is by far the one I ever adored so much. He's good-looking, friendly, nice, plays various instruments, sings like an angel (as cheesy as that might sound), athletic (he plays a lot of sports and is good at them), smart, leads well, is a Christian like me, grounded by his faith (by that I mean he doesn't get involved in any negative influences), considerate, cool, attractive and just about any other positive vocabulary out there. The 5 days I was there I didn't make the approach to talk to him because I was too shy and insecure but deep down, I really really liked him even if I've only known him for a short period of time. He's the center of attention obviously because he's so charming and talented. He was the topic girls talk about in the dorm at night. But he was still so humble about all the attention he's getting. When we got back, I searched him on the Internet (FB etc) Sounds like what a stalker would do? Yep, I was feeling it too and then I found out he has a girlfriend and they've been going out for a long time. Sure, I felt so so so jealous, frustrated and disappointing but I haven't given up there. I continued going to his pages and keeping up with him. Almost a year now I'm still doing it. In February, I found out he's going off to Australia to study. It'd be for years till he gets his degree. Even if he comes back for holidays, I still won't be able to see him anymore because 1) he'd be too old for the camp (he's 21, 5 years older than me) and 2) he lives in different state, it would take hours to get there. Even so, I doubt he even remembers me because I obviously haven't made an impression. But till now, I still have that feeling inside of me. I still like him and I still haven't forgotten him. It's scary and creepy to know but I know this is going nowhere at all. It's just a matter of time before I go off to college, he gets a job, start a new life with a partner.. But the 5 days during the camp has impacted me so much. And I know I'd never be able to find a guy so immaculate. Please, aunts, help me :( Thank you guys so much!
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reader, tjazzy  +, writes (3 December 2009):
Now I do not agree with your last statement, there are thousands of immaculate Christ-like guys in the Christian fold. You are simply suffering from a mega crush and this is because you have too much time on your hands for day dreaming and stalking. I think you should volunteer for a few activities in church so that you can get to meet other nice boys. Also, I can be 90% sure that if you see your friend in 5 years time you will wonder exactly why you were so heavily into him in the first place. Because he will no longer be the same person. When you get to college look for extra curricular activities to occupy your time and strength, that is the trick behind meeting great people and getting over crushes - Massive activity. Finally, if you have been reading those unrealistic Christian or secular romance novels, now is the time to tear them ALL up. Good luck.
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