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writes:I'm 16 and i went to spain with my friend for a week to visit my family. My family also had some friends visiting that were living in the villa next to where we were staying.over the week we had a bit of a thing didn't go too far. He nearly took my virginity but my friend stopped me before i went too far.When we both had to home back to our home town which is hours away from each other i was really upset and he promised to meet up with me in a few weeks in london.Back in england we talked on the phone every night for hours for about a week and he always used to make sure i hadn't got with any guys then one night i got a text saying "youu ugly fat b*tch" i wasnt too sure what to think of this i thought it might just be cos he's drunk from then i got phone calls from a girl having a go at me, swearing, screaming and threatening me.I found out that he had a girlfriend and was cheating on her with me. I was very upset. I'm still not fully over him. And i'm going to his parents wedding next week and he'll be there and even though him and his girlfriend have broken up she's going to be there! what do i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyouu very much everyone. but yes i do HAVE to go to the wedding its my close aunts. i'm going to take my best boy mate who's very good looking and said that he'll pretend to be my boyfriend (such a good friend) and there's noway i'll go out with the liar!
Weddings tuesday :s wish me luck and thankyouu very much for all your advise
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (24 July 2010):
 You say you are not 'over him'...why would you waste your affection on a boy who cheats on his girlfriend? He was trying to use you for sex but fortunately it didn't get that far. You don't have to go to the wedding...fake food poisoning, headache or something else on the day and stay home. The fact is that the wedding is not about you, him or his girlfriend. It is about two people having a special party to celebrate their marriage. It would not be decent to go if you anticipate a fight because that would spoil it for the bride and groom. You should feel sorry for his girlfriend. If she remains with him having knowledge of you then she is a weak victim who won't have much luck with men in life. To send you text messages that blame you for his behaviour is typical in weak-minded people who don't want to see the reality and walk away from a bad relationship. He will bring her no happiness. He would have brought you no happiness either. Frankly if he cheats on her, he would cheat on you too if you were his girlfriend. If she continues to threaten you by phone then tell your parents and contact the phone provider. It is illegal to harrass people by phone or other communicative means.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Ugh, stay away from the two losers...they seem to deserve each other. If you feel you HAVE to go, try and bring a date-A guy friend or something...that way, they're less likely to approach you and if they do, you have backup. Show the guy you don't give a damn about him or his girlfriend, ignore them and have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2010): If you feel you really have to be there because they're friends of your family's, go ahead, but I would stay clear of him and his fling friend. Chances are, if he cheated on you with her, they're still going at it on and off, and he'll never change that. He could act like the sweetest guy ever at the wedding, and it'll just be a cover for how he'd hurt you again, for his own selfishness in the future. Trust me, don't give him the satisfaction of even looking interested, even if you pretend you're interested to try to burn her up. It's not worth it.. he's not worth it, no matter what went on between his other girl and you, or what she said to you in that text. Just let it go, and if it's just friends of your family's, I would ask yourself if it's a wedding that's really worth going to, with 2 idiots like them set to be there.
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reader, tmariee  +, writes (24 July 2010):
Honestly you have done nothing wrong.. He is a pig. If he really cared about you then he would have atleast had the curtiosy to tell you he has a girlfriend. But he didnt he lied to you instead.. And has he even tried to talk to you? Im 17 yrs old by the way and I think you should go about your life and do what you have to do. Your young and probally very beautiful so stop worrying about one pathetic guy. And go to that wedding with your head held high bring a hot sexy date if you have to just so he knows your life will definetly go on with or without him!.. And if he tries to talk to you listen to what he has to say and if you think in your heart he's worth your time then do what your heart says. But don't forget you deserve the best of the best. don't settle for anything less he should beg and plead to you that he would like a shot, and if he doesnt then honestly he's not even worth your air space..and remember this.. he cheated on his girlfriend with you correct? imagine if you two did get together..would you really wanna be on the other end of the phone?
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reader, a_seidner06 +, writes (24 July 2010):
 Go with another guy. Maybe then the girl will see that you have another guy and leave you alone. Or you can walk up to her and punch her in the face-NOT! lol. But you could let her know that he never told you he had a girlfriend.
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