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writes: we have been together for 4 years and both love eachother we have a lovely home and everthing. he likes going out with his mates every sat and friday and i dont even get an invite and when i ask him he says i should stay in look after the dog and i get so bored jelous and paranoid. i know its not an excuse but i have slept with somebody last week coz i was so hungry for love but now i dont know what to do ! can you help i dont want to lose what we got but i want us to do things that we used to i am sick of him critise me all the time i still love him helpppppppp........ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): girl leave this scumbag! he doesnt care for you, he wants to have his cake and eat it too if you know what i mean. have it ever occured to you that he may be seeing another woman. think about it. dont feel guilty about thinkin that he may be cheating on you. i've been in a marriage for 7 years now that i thought was a happy marriage, and i just recelenty found out that my man has been seeing other woman. i thought i loved this man, but i've come to relize that he's just using me to clean up the house, cook, and do his dirty laundry and that he doesnt care for me at all. he's never made an effort to spend time with me either. so thats what made me relize that he doesnt care, so why should i love someone who doesnt care. hes not going to change his ways if thats what you think. you say you've been like this for four years, so what makes you think he's going to change. forget the lovely house and everything, its not worth it. i too have lovely things, but im not going to let it get in the way of me leaving him! plus men who out of the blue try to pick a fight, aren't really mad, they just try to picka fight to have an exuse to leave the house and go see the other woman. i recomend this website, www.womansavers.com. they give you very good and smart advise on how to catch a cheating husband. thats the way that i caught mine. read it carefully, its very helpful! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Have you really spoken with him about this? Does he understand how upset you are about it? Sit him down and try and talk rationally about it. Judging by the responses so far, we're all in agreement that it just doesn't sound fair. Does this mean that you never go out together because someone always has to look after the dog? I'm sure the dog could be left alone for a few hours? Forget about the other guy for now, that was a mistake, we all make mistakes and it's easy to do when we're hurt and feeling unloved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): Hmmm that's a tricky one.
I've had a similar experience in my past and would have to say that theres something going on, I realize that you love each other dearly but did it ever cross your mind that hes not really meeting up with his friends and that hes seeing someone else or that maybe you should spie on him just to put your mind at ease.
Take it from me, I was with my partner for 6 years and spied on him one night and caught him grinding with a girl on the dance floor at a club. I could be wrong, but just wanted to give you a heads up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2006): hello honey, what do you mean you dont want to lose what you got !!! you dont have anything with this man of yours, get out of this relationship b4 he flattens your self worth and confidence completly, he treating you like his toy and when he doesnt want to play anymore he puts you away in the box and goes out to play with his mates, what sort of life is that for you!!! you have to think about yourself now cos your man is sorted it got it just how it suits him , get rid of him and dont rely on others for your happiness in life, (im afraid that is and always will be down to you) i know this all sounds easier said than done when you think you love him so much , i guarantee without him in your life your confidence will soar and you will see that life has so much more to offer you , and do not feel guilty about the sex you had with someone else(hope you remembered to be safe) as we all crave and need the human touch. be brave and do the right thing for youself, i truly hope you work this out as you only get one shot at life so go get it , be happy , best wishes xx
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