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female
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41-50,
*rinPatterson
writes: I should not be asking this question at my age..so but in any case this is the least of my worries..I am divorced, awaiting unemployment, my son is grown, I am mostly college educated, totally at a crossroads of my life..so other than not having my bearings about myself..I am soo not secure in the relationship department and have what my friend describes as "sex issues"..I bar tended and waitressed in night clubs for a better part of my 20's. Well I tend to see the wilder side of men and I am so adimit about the lines between friendship and booty calls and god just "the rules".I mean ya know there are they "unspoken rules"..but I find myself the type that cannot date a guy and be sexually active with him and date another also if the relationship is not "classified"..I mean it just freaks me out..and its are woman supposed to be able to separate feelings like men can..I mean is it a bad thing if I cant do that? the sad things is..I have been dating this man who has become a friend who lives out of state who I am not in love with since being unemployed and surgery..I just have had more time to think about it..and that's probably the problem..but I have found myself not being able to openly date another guy although there is really no commitment with "my friend" lets call him other then wonderful dinners, nice cute little gifts and surprised from time to time and just someone to talk to during this time in my life..we have known each other for two years..I don't get the butterflies with him..never did..I care for him but am not head over heels..but I am not dating..I find I am unable to because of him..its like I feel guilty when all this relationship may be is a friend and we have never "had sex" really..well fooling around a bit ya know but not "sex". so I mean its not like either one of us have the responsibility of a relationship and I dotn quite know..any mens opinion on cozy friendships..I mean the gifts and such are nice little surprises and I know he does it because he is just nice and like to do those types of things..but should I feel guilty dating others..or slutty for that matter?
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reader, JockoJ +, writes (10 April 2009):
Don't use him, either to prop up your ego or because you like the gifts. Be honest and straightforward.
And please, you're divorced, your son is grown, be a slut and don't feel guilty about it. You've earned it. Women got liberated don't ya know?
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