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writes:Ok so I've been with my boyfriend for a few months now, and we just starting doing stuff like handjob/fingering. He initiated it by touching me first and while doing that guiding my hand to him so that we were kind of doing the stuff at the same time. Now see the 1st time he tried that I yelled out OUCH as the thing is I'm not a virgin but I find anything being inserted incredibly painful if I don't know it's coming and don't have a chance to try and relax, I tense up really easily. It kind of scared him but we tried again and since I was able to relax more it went fine.Fast forward about 2 weeks and we've done this maybe 5-6 times now. My problem now is that EVERYTIME since we are doing things to each other at the same time, he orgasms and goes completely A.D.D. as to what he was doing to me. I'm still completely into what he was just doing to me and then he stops right in the middle of it. And even once he finishes and cleans up and what not, he comes back and just gives me a kiss and wants to cuddle? It's like he forgets what he was just doing?Yesterday when he initiated this stuff I didnt start touching him right away I kinda left it for a bit, and then within like 2 minutes he was putting my hand down there hinting me. Which is fine I like doing that to him but it's just frustrating because he gets me so into it and then just stopsHow do I bring this up to him? I don't even know what to say to start that conversation? He is quite shy, and we haven't really talked about our past sexual history. He made some comment the 1st day that he fingered me about "and that there is about my understanding of female anatomy" I don't know if that was a joke or it meant that's all he's ever done with a girl? HELP?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks you guys! I like your idea Audrey27! And yes you sound exactly like me, it gets you so frustrated!
And yes to clarify...we HAVE NOT had sex.
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reader, Audrey27  +, writes (30 December 2009):
Okay so that happened to me in the hot tub at the beach to. Same thing hectouched me first got me into it and then when I started doing him at the same time he just stopped. Pissed the hell outta me. But anyway just when he stops, you needs stop. He will usually go back to fingering you and start back too. Hope this helps!
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reader, hameleon89  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 so as i understood you didn't had sex yet?
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