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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me an my partner have been together for a year now and it has to be the best relationship I have had. He's loving, caring, funny, everything I could ever wish for. Then a few months in the relationship we broke up for 2 weeks over someone ringing my phone, but we got back together, then a few months later he was at his friend's house and I thought I would do something nice for him so I dressed up and got out the cam corder [I'm guessing you knoe what I'm talking bout]. We had made a video before so I wanted to download it on the computer to watch on the TV because watching myself and him doing it is a turn on. I was going through the videos and came across the video and I played it to turn myself on then whilist watching it I was thinking... that's not my arse because I have a tatoo on my right cheek and the colour of the skin is a lot darker than mine! Then I was thinking... hang on that aint me so I stopped it and flicked through the camera and saw the same girl again! I started to cry, I couldn't believe that this had happened and I didn't even pick up on it. There was no signs from him there was nothing. I text him to come home and asked if he had anything to confess and he said no [of course he's gona say that] then I put on the telly and the video was playing so I asked him again then he told me but he tried to make up all these excuses about we weren't together but when we got back together that's when we got the camera. But I forgave him!Then about 3 months after that he sat me down and told me he had an STI, I couldn't believe it, I was guessing it must have been from the girl that he slept with cause I got checked out before we got together. Oh yeah and when we had the 2 weeks break he slept with someone else and she could have just had a child but I didnt have a problem with that cause we wasn't together. But even though he has given me 2 STI's and heartache, I love him and I'm still with him. I don't understand it, I don't feel like he's done anything wrong, it's like I don't care. What should I do? Should I stay with him or should I leave him and why am I feelin this?
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reader, shellie 2 +, writes (22 February 2009):
Hi there,Cant believe what i am hearing.You have only been with your partner a short while and he has treated you terribly !He has gone behind your back given you 2STIs ! How much more does he have to do ? He is taking you for a fool he knows you will keep taking him back.You are young you need to get out more mix with other people who treat you with the respect you deserve ! Let me tell you ime 43 years old and was married for 13 years we had just moved and taken on a big morgage two weeks later he walks out on me, i was devestated he was having an affair under my very nose.It was the hardest time of my life thought i would die.A month after he left he asked if he could come home,i said no as i was unsure how i felt ! he then went back to the girl who then became pregnant.This has made me so strong it would have been so easy to take him back,Just going on my life experience you dont have to take my advice,dont be a doormat though.I have met a great guy now trust is the key.Good luck and stay strong be in control whatever you decide.x shellie
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (21 February 2009):
 If you have forgiven him and it doesn't bother you. Just tell him you want him to have monthly GU check ups and always make him wear a condom.
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