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writes:im 17 and ive been with my bf for 1 year and 2 months. a while bak he said to me that hed been thinking of his ex girlfriends family and thought i should know as he felt guilty. but a few weeks later during an argument he told me that he wasnt thinking bout her family he was thinking bout her sexually and masterbated over her. i was devestated n really hurt, he also told me he masterbates over other girls i know in collage. He said hes sorry and wont ever do again. and everytime i asked him he said he hadnt masterbated over them but last night during a serious convo he told me that he had still been doing it. i just feel so hurt not only is it because he keeps lying to me but i just feel as though im not good enough. what have they got that i havent. i mean he seems to go for girls who are slapped up in makeup and miniskrits etc but im not like them, and i feel like im not right for him. i feel ugly n horrible. ive cried bout this soo much, i was beginning to get over it and started trusting him again but last night when he told me, im realy heart broken. ive tried to talk to him about it the last time but he didnt understand,i pretended last night i was ok bout it. i mean he often calls me podgy and says harsh stuff, if i get upset bout it he says im only messing, but he doesnt understand how i feel,i dont know what to do. i feel useless. im fed up of crying but i love him so much. is it normal for a guy to masterbate over their ex and other girls i know. i no they look at porn. but his ex i dont understand why? i mean i never look at other guys in a sexual way as hes good enough for me. dnt need others. he says that he may see a girl during the day and think core shes nice than later on he will masterbate over her. his ex dumped him, do u think hes still attracted to her n has feelings for her still?do u think im being used.? please help
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reader, kate2 +, writes (5 April 2007):
kate2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalthough he only says that he masterbates over them when im away. do you think he thinks about them during sex? im so hurt, i cant leave him as i love him soo much. going to see him in an hour or so. gonna be so awkward as gotta act as though im fine until i think wat im gonna do. if i let on im hurt hell lie to me again.
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reader, kate2 +, writes (5 April 2007):
kate2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif i tell him i wont stand for this behaviour then he will carry on doing but will lie to me. as that is waht happened before. i just love him sooo much nd he says he feels same way bout me, but if that was the case y wud he do what he does. he ses sometimes thinking of me doesnt work so he has to move onto another girl. he also said he fantises over cheating on me and likes the feelings but wudnt do in reilality as he doesnt wanna lose me. do u think hes caperble or cheating? and wants too? thank for your previous reply.
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reader, kate2 +, writes (5 April 2007):
kate2 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your replys its just sooo hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): It is difficult when you truly love someone and they hurt you. I know exactly how you feel. I have had my loveone do things that really ripped my heart out, and becasue you truly love this guy, no matter what he does, you will still love him. You seem to be a sweet person, but you need to be strong and tell him, that you won't stand for this type of behavior from him. Personally, I do not think that you deserve this type of treatment.
As difficult as it may seem, you should try to not see him for a while and see if he misses you. IF he loves you, he should Not being thinking of other people and masturbating especially his ex. I am sure there is some guy out there that would love to be your boyfriend, and who will treat you with more respect.When you love someone, you don't just hurt them puropsely. I feel bad for you,don't make him make you feel less of a person. I want you to tell yourself that you are a beautiful person ( I am sure that you are )That you deserve better than this, you can be happy without him.His behaviour is scary, really.
I hope sweetheart, that you can be strong and make yourself happy. You can only make yourself happy, don't depend on anyone else to be incharge of your happiness.
Good luck dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007): I think you are in quite a situation here. Your boyfriend seems like a guy that you don't really want to be with. do yuo really want a guy who says he loves you but is basically pretending to have sex with other girls? If you break up with him you won't have to hear all this terrible stuff he is telling you and you can find another guy who is focused on you and only you!
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