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41-50,
*ixeydust
writes:My boyfriend seems all to ready to break off our relationship. He is fixing to go on a job and he has been cheated on several times in the past. When he goes on a job he is gone for several days or weeks at a time, I think that he is afraid that I will cheat on him while he is gone, this is what he has come to expect because it has been done so many times to him. How can I overcome this and get him to trust me while he is away? I understand why it is hard for him to trust me in this area because the same has been done to me and it is hard for me to trust as well. He trusts me in all other areas though. He is always telling me that he loves that I do not steal (am not a thief) and I'm not a liar, it's just when it comes to that, it's hard for him to trust and I think it is easier for him to just break off the relationship that it would be for him to find out that I was cheating on him. I wouldn't do this to him, but he expects it. What can I do? Please help!
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reader, racelacey  +, writes (28 April 2008):
Hi Pixiedust, seems a little bit fimiliar to my ex and myself, he was cheated on by nearly every woman he was with, and i really couldnt understand it, his a lovely guy, and yes his my ex now but i still say his lovely, totally crushed its over but hey life goes on, he also works away, 3 weeks on and then off, and all i did was reassure him, and give him loads of love, as i thought he needed it.
I gave him all of me because of the past just like your partner, infact i made him know how much he could trust me, that in the end i think personally it was too easy for him, and he got bored. He trusted me so much that he lost interest.
So what i am trying to say is, please dont give him all of you, i know its easy when you love someone to try and prove that you wouldnt hurt them, but keep something back, as otherwise you might end up like me, if he does decide to end your relationship, he will realise what a good good woman you are, and come back if you leave him to learn by his mistakes, well thats what i am doing lol,,, you take care hope it works out well for you xxxxx
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (28 April 2008):
 Check out this site on how to build trust:
http://www.ehow.com/how_2260798_build-trust.html
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