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writes:i had been dating a guy for over two years..and this may sound silly but, i just want to know from a males' perspective what the deal may be. okay, he and i were on each other's facebook pages and linked as being in a relationship...i had pictures of him on mine and he has pictures of us on his and i never forced him to do any of that..then one day i came home, logged onto my laptop on facebook and saw that he had erased our relationship status, my pictures but he had still kept me on his friends' list. at this time he had been staying at my house while i was gone to work. i asked him about it immediately and he told me sorry he had forgotten to tell me but that he didn't want his personal life all over facebook. i asked him why never told me seeing he had been on my laptop doing all of this. he said it was an honest mistake that he had forgotten to tell me and told me he wants to use his facebook for his catering now. i find it very, very strange that he would be at my house while i was at workease all of our photos and relationship status and then forget to tell me?? i have a hard time believing that excuse...like why would you post pics then decide to take them all down?? to me it just seemed like he didn't want anyone to know he in a relationship any longer. well he ended up getting mad at me saying why does facebook have to define our relationship. that just sounds like the slackest excuse ever....it still bugs me to this day and i cannot shake it.
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reader, 1990rebecca  +, writes (1 April 2011):
I'm sorry but if he doesn't want his 'personal life all over facebook', he would delete his account all together. I assume he doesn't update his status or have any information about himself on there?
Most likely, he wants to appear single. I think you knew this already though.
You really do deserve someone who wants the world to know your together.
I hope this helps, Stay true to yourself. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): I have the same situation here. He erased our relationship status and although he has many pix there is not one of me. He was on my fb as a friend but I deleted him due to the crap he writes. He would never say we only he. Making it sound like he was single. Mind you it is a 15 year relationship. He also has his x girlfriend (from more than 35 yrs ago) as a fb friend. He has over 100 female friends and very few male friends. He never goes out, he is always with me. Its an ego thing..Men have to feel wanted at all times. I say whats good for the goose is good for the gander. I have erased my relationship status also. Both of our cell phones are on his account. One day I checked the account and found that he has been sending numerous text messages to his ex. I asked him why and he was so angry at me for checking the account. He claims they are just friends. He has since then changed the password. Now I have my own cell phone and I can text and call whom ever I please. If I can't check his account, he cant check mine. He did'nt forget to tell you, he was hoping you wouldn't find out. He gave me the same crap about not wanting people to know his business. Stating being in a relationship would shy away all the single women. Why do some men think we are stupid?
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 People set limitations to personal privacy in different levels, and out of respect of this inherent individual rights,no one, not even the closest of relationships has the right to question or violate that. What I'm trying to say is that if he considers keeping his personal life private,it must be respected if he prefers it that way.He cannot find a valid excuse to tell you why he doesn't like it because maybe he didn't like the idea of your relationship posted to public's scrutiny in the first place.So, why was he posting it before without you forcing him as you say? Simply he wanted to please you,according to my opinion. It is only now he has the courage to tell you when you discovered it. On the other hand,use your instincts for some observable changes in his behavior after this puzzling event..this might raise an amber signal to your doubts..just suggesting (wink).
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