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writes:Ok so i dated a boy for about 2 months and then he told me he had feelings for his ex. So i left him to make it easier for him to make up his mind.A few days later he said he had decided and it was me he wanted and not her. I told him i would take him back on the condition he wouldn't hurt me again. He apologised and even cried and i believed how sorry he was.Then about a week later he said he didn't feel comfortable around me and that he didn't agree with some of the things i wanted to do (eg sex on his 16th birthday, but he wanted to wait until marriage, but he had never told me these things so i assumed all was peachy). So he dumped me basically.It's been about a week since this - and he says he regrets what he said and he wants me back etc. I told him no more chances but i miss him and i want to be back with him too.We are friends now and we talk to each other, he even gives me the odd hug here and there.All i want to know is, if i should forget about him and move on, or give him another chance and ask him to be honest with me?Sorry it's long and thanks in advance for any help - i will know who to thank when i'm happy :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2008): I'm in complete agreement with what Shiraz and Aunty Em have told you!
My question for you is: do you like being punished?
Because that's what you'll be getting if you give him any more chances! (At your age there's lots nicer boys out there you can be friends, and in time, gf-bf with.....)
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reader, shiraz +, writes (3 September 2008):
hiyah, firstly do you really need this guy in your life? you might feel you want him but you definatley dont need him! you give him chance after chance and he just expects it of you now. hes lost all respect for you and its unfair for anyone to be treated how hes treating you. you might miss him but you can do better. you need to be stronger so you can move on and get better in your life. He knpws youd never treat him like this so how does it make it ok for him too?
do the right thing for yourself and move on, find somebody who loves you, treats you right and doesnt mess you about, you deserve that for putting up with this guy for as long as you have, harsh advice and its up to you what to do but at the end of the day you need whats best for you and he really isnt.He dont deserve that 3RD chance.
hope it goes ok, let us know how it pans out.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (3 September 2008):
 I think if you were to give him a third chance, you'd basically be saying 'i'll forgive you for anything'.
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