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writes: Why would a guy who dumped you want to remain friends? My ex was my best friend but not long after we went out together, and particularly after we had sex, he lost all interest in me and became quite mean, but now he has been saying he wants to be friends with me.He knows I can't do the friends with exs thing, but is still trying to get me to hang out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): Hello Dear, this question goes to me directly... cox I am experiencing such problem even till now... I was making a friendship with this girl... but after having sex with her and I find out that she was not be faithful to me.. i have to break the friendship with her... but through we no longer have any thing in common I still very much wants to be a friend to her.. why it happens why he was in that relationship seeing your presence was always making him happy even now that both of your are not more he still want to be there for you.. and i can tell you.. that he even still love you more than what you even think... like as I told you before.. with an example of mine this girl I have my friendship till now still really love to way I do to her since after our break up.. cox even when she get pregnant and her boy friend denied her... this girl where very sinck and be hospitalised but for the sake of true love i have for the past i took all the responsibilities of this girl which she never believe i can to for her if we were even together... so with this.. she know i was always a good friend to her... this guy trying to be a friend to you doesnt not really me he want to be having sex with you... but i can tell you taking him back will help you in future... cox he really cares about you and always want your presence that is why he wants you friend with him... just as said before after all do for my ex girl she were thinking i will take her back to friendship but i just be open minded and tell her that i do all this for her for the sake of my true love for her... but never want to go back into relationship she cried and apologised that i should let come back together than i tell her it will not work out again... cox i know if i go back into that relationship... i may hurt her and i have to take her as just friend till now... we both now like brother and sister and it really making us happy with each other.... So dear i will advice that you take a great advantage to take this guy back cox i know he coming back to you for a great purpose which you may not no now...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2007): You should not be friends with him, cuz it will be painful for YOU. He dumped you, so now he should live with the decision he made to demote you in his life which resulted in the decision you make to remove him from yours. Do you really want to watch him fall in love with someone else and pretend to be supportive of his next serious relationship?
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Hey there...
I think the reason is because he doesn't want to lose what you had BEFORE you slept together. Maybe he was hoping for fireworks and everything when you tried dating, and some friendships can turn into that, but some don't either. I think that he tried an intimate relationship with you but it just didn't feel right for him, so now he wants to go back to being just best friends with you. That says a lot for you as a friend, doesn't it!? He loves your friendship, so why is it so hard for you to go back to that place? Bottom line - if you can't be friends with him now, then you can't, end of story. But if you had a fantastic friendship beforehand, then why not try to see if you can forget about the other stuff and go back to that?
Just do what is right for you but I think that all he wants is to be best friends with you again, like before.
Best of luck.....xxx
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