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writes:i have been dating this guy for the last one year,he is wonderful,we get along very well.We have never been intimate.My problem is,he has seen and done a lot of sex before.He dumped his ex after having sex with her..Am afraid to loose my virginity to him then he later dumps me...please advice me on how to 'test' whether he truly loves me and will still want to marry me after having sex with me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2012): Don't have sex with him and if you think he is a player don't marry him. Break up with him, that's my advice. Even if someone loves you that can change and they can decide they don't want to be with you anymore.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (23 March 2012):
 If it's important for you to only have sex with one man (that you marry your first), you should wait until marriage first. The guy sounds a bit like a player both based on your description and the fact that you have enough of a suspicion to write this question. Like So Very Confused said, there's no reason you have to have sex to be in a relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 March 2012):
 There is no TEST for if a man truly loves you. IF he loves you, you will know it. Trust me.
IF you fear he won’t marry you after having sex with you then DO NOT have sex with him.
there is no rule that says you need to have sex with someone you are dating.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (23 March 2012):
 This isn't quite like the PSATs..... so you can't take the test twice!!!!!
Simply consider this: Most guys are out for one thing... s*x with girls....
IF you put out for a guy in short order after meeting him.... then you will be a strong candidate for being dumped BECAUSE you put out for him too soon....
YOU must balance the timing of putting out such that you do NOT do so too quickly (and get dumped for being an "easy lay.").... and holding out too long... or for the wrong reasons (and get dropped for being a "co*k tease")...
The greatest question that you can answer for yourself is this one: "Does putting out for a guy REALLY make enough difference that I MUST do so to keep his attention?"
If the answer to this last question is "yes," then hang on because a LOT of guys are going to clamor to date you....
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