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writes:Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together for a year this month I'm 21 years old and he is 10 years my senior. We don't live together or anything but as he's told me I am THE woman for him I thought it was time we had the talk about marriage/children etc and basically all I got from him is that he will never get married and never wants to children then he changed the subject and I never asked why because I already know that he thinks marriage is a waste of time and kids just aren't for him, although he is brilliant with children. So it just got me thinking how can we have a future together when I want to get married and have children and he does not? I know being a relationship with somebody you love means sacrificing things at times but my dream to get married and have children is not something I will give up. So what do I do? Bear in mind that I am very much in love with this man. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Hi
If this is your dream, then you must follow it, and in fairness your man has TOLD you he intends not to share the same dream. I would say this could possibly change but highly unlikely. I would not waste your youth if you want children that is too big a sacrifice to make, have you asked him how he would feel if you had children to another man? Is it only his own child he does not want or any children?
You have to rethink what you want because your paths are so different and he has already been straight with you, so you know in advance.
Spunky monkey
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): If he is still talking like that after being with you for a year. Then there is a very good chance he is not going to change his mind. What you do, really does depend on how much you love him. Do you love him enough to sacrifice marriage and children? If not, then you only have one option really and that is to leave him. He has made his position very clear. Make your position clear too and talk together. If you can't find a middle ground and both want polar opposites then breaking up might be the only option for you.
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