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writes: Hi there, Please help me.I'm in a dlienma, my boyfriend of 2 years didn't want our baby I had in july. He told his ex-wife and their son, that the baby was not his. I went to live with my parents and the baby. We have been seeing each other from July and I have stayed at our house, with our son over night. Before christmas he told me he got the job he applied for and would be going away on a course. He is in trouble with money and moved all our things from the house which has now sold. He now lives with his ex and thier son. Now he tell me that he sleeps on the floor which i do not believe. he is going away on sunday for 12 weeks but will come back at weekends and stay with them. he said he would stay with me, but my parents think he is no good for me. I have seen him daily for the last few weeks and we have sex. the sex is great. he used to be really nice before he moved in with his ex - telling me by tect that he loved me and wanted us. even at chistmas he went to his parents and came back and told me he wanted to marry me. however since new year he has been mean, saying that he will only come over if i give him money, or items. he isn't texting me or even talking to me at the moment as he calls me a liar saying that if i loved him i would give him things as he has no money and he can sell them. he earns a decent wage, i don't.I don't know what to do. I'm so confused. my heart is with him, but he treats me like rubbish. i can't give him up. i sound pathetic. i don't know how to move on. He tells me that i will never meet anyone else, not with a baby. i'm scared and don't know what to do.Please someone tell me that it will get better x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2007): hi,
i am in the same situation right now. My man of two years told me that if i do not have an abortion then i am dead to him. I am currently three months pregnant. I look at it like it was the best thing he could have done for me. My child is my world. Children are a God's gift. So place the situation in His hands. All will be ok. By the way, there are a lot of men that are interested in woman with a child. Be patient. God puts situations and people in our lives for a reason. I am currently one paycheck away from the shelters, because i can not work at the job i work at if i am pregnant. (liftng, etc.) But i know that my blessing is on the way (my bundle of joy) and more opportunities are coming. You'll get over love and loved again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): I know this is so tuff to handle I have and ex that's sounds just like this guy it took me so long to realize that he didn't love me our sex life was great to but the onle good thing that came out of the relationship was our son. YOu really need to move on and just have no contact with him at all Im sure he will play games and say he wants to see his son which if he is a good dad you should let him but take that time for your self go out get your hair nails what ever done to make you feel better about you and as soon as you put your focus on you and your son and not him you will start to feel so much better about yourself and you will look at him in a different light. Of course it will take time but it's so worth it I did it it wasnt easy but I wanted to be treated better cause I know I was a good person and didn't deserve that he's very malnipulative and you just need to be smarter than him. Too bad he has no money you need all your money for you and your baby don't give him shit he should be giving you money. Take it a day at a time more time that goes by the easier it will get. I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years now and we have a child together he treats my other son like his own and my son loves him so much. I thought I would never be were I'am today but I never felt ashamed when I told men I dated that I had a kid cause we were a package deal take or leave it and eventually I found the right man he would never hurt me we have a great relationship.As for my ex he is a person who needs lots of help. and who ever ends up with him will need help too. You can do this just let him go and take care of your precious baby and things will get better I guarrentee it Good Lu ck
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reader, mystify +, writes (7 January 2006):
 he is attempting to control you by telling you , you will never meet anyone else with a baby...he is treating you bad and you deserve better and i can tell you that i had a baby i did it all on my own and when my baby was only 1 year old i met my husband who loved my son like his own, i think you and your baby deserve better
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): The first thing I want to say that any man who denies his child is worthless, he knows the child is his and is telling his ex-wife that it isnt because he is sleeping with both of you!!
I think that he is using your child to manipulate you, he is playing on your fears of bringing up a child on your own and never meeting anyone else. That is complete rubbish, your parents will support you in raising your child and there will be other men, men who want to love you and look after you not use you for sex and money and items that you can give him.
I personally wouldnt have had this man near me after he denied our child I know that you still love him but you will get over it I would agree with your parents on this one he is no good for you.
Obviously you will have to faclitate some form of contact with him and the baby but as for anything else this guys a loser let him sleep on his ex-wifes 'floor' and enjoy your child and in time you'll get yourself a real man.
I wish you the best with this situation good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): I agree you do sound pathetic. Obviously he's still sleepin with his ex. that's his babymomma also. Toyin you guys around. He's not a man. You just need to worry about you and your baby. I hope your not givin him money etc. File for child support. Teach him a lesson. He thinks he can go around doing whatever he wants?? Bottom line don't let him walk all over you.
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