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anonymous
writes:So me and my boyfriend have been together for around seven months and are happy or so I thought. He doesn't trust me or believe me half the time anymore and I just recently found out that he thinks I'm am or will cheat on him with my friend who I have absolutly no feelings for. I have no clue what to do. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): All you can do is ask why he thinks this, and reassure him of your feelings. Try to find out whether he has had trust issues in the past which are affecting his view of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): ~TRUST SUSTAINS THE HOUSE OF CARDS ERECTION~
Your boyfriend has your house of cards leaning like a thug in a cadi...put your seat belt on Sweetie...your boyfriend's going to hit the hydrolics button!...Suspend his liscence and send him off to driving school.
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reader, cavwils12 +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Leave him. I was in a relationship like that...he checked my texts and my recent text list and he even told me to delete my facebook because guys can talk to me on there. I couldnt go anywhere without him because he said guys would come talk to me. If i said hi to a friend...my god it was practically cheating to him. I never cheated on him, never never but he continued to pull that and I snapped and I left him and I am soooo happy I have no one to control me. You control your life, do not let some guy bring you down and accuse you of something your not doing. You dont leave him now, and he will start to get more controlling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Perhaps you are sometimes guilty of being a little too flirtateous around his friends or other guys you think are cute. He may have picked up on your behavior and is calling you on it. In order to win his trust you may have to change your behavior or at least be aware that some of your gestures are sending out the wrong signals(twirling your hair, batting your eyes, leaning in a little too close, touching another guys hand or arm when you talk to him).
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reader, soon567 +, writes (4 December 2010):
I agree with all. Ask yourself why is he accusing you? It would occur to me maybe he's thinking of cheating or has cheated
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): I suggest you have a long talk with him telling him how he is wrongly accusing you of this and how bad it makes you feel inside that he thinks these things about you. If he does not trust you after talking things out with him then I think its time to leave this relationship.
I was in the same position you are in (minus the friend - but he thought I was cheating/talking with other guys when I was not) and no matter how much I talked to him and how much I proved to him I was not cheating... it did not make things any better. In fact, his behavior got worse. He became over posessive, controlling, and I changed alot in personality when I was with him (constantly worrying what I have to say to him, depressed, stressed out).
You don't want it to get to that point where you lose yourself and you lose your happiness within the relationship. I suggest talking with him and if that doesn't change things... then leave fast! There's no relationship without any trust in it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Oh my god thats boys they don't understand u can have a male friend that u dont fancy. Just sit him down and say get ur act together!
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reader, Abella +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Sorry to be the bearer of bad tidings but this guy seems very insecure. His immaturity is showing up very vkwarl Jealously is either part of a person's being or it's not. Jealously is such a petty nasty trait and it can escalate as it gets worse to point where he will want to control you too much. Ultimately it can become abusive towards the victim (you in this instance).
Besides this guy just does not know who you are and what makes you tick. Otherwise he would have believed you, or not even constructed this silly accusation in the first place. Do the right thing to protect you now, and in the future, from his potentially abusive accusation and say good bye. The first couple of weeks will be tough, and you might question your decision. But if you can refrain from seeing or contacting him for a minimum of 2 months, then i think you will see a whole lot of more
positive experiences out there open up to y.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Yes, leave him.
Sorry, but someone who doesn't trust you, without cause, is not someone you can have a constructive relationship with.
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