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writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 3 weeks now and it really aggrevates me that I text him 1-2 times a day and sometimes he never even texts me back. he says he likes me alot blah blah but why doesn't he say a simple hey how are you?? Especially today (saturday) because that was our 3 week mark and I know he cares about me but it annoys me that he ignores my texts sometimes. he goes online and does stuff but he doesn't text me it's really annoying to me sometimes. I dont want to make a big deal about it so i dont bring it up or make it look like it bothers me but im just wondering why do guys do this he does this atleast 1-3 times a week and it's really annoying. My boyfriend does have social anxiety and we both are sort of depressed. Am i over reacting?? I want to be a good not clingy girlfriend but im away on vacation and i texted him saying i got off safe and asked how he was. I just dont understand this :\please help me asap
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): What i've found is that when he doesnt text back, he's too busy doing his own thing. You should know that he does love you, it's just that boys can only think and do one thing at a time. My boyfriend has a one track mind, and if he's doing his own thing, he cant possibly think of doing another i.e texting me... But when he's finished or runs out of things to do, he'll give me a call.. So dont worry, he'll end up calling you, just let him do his thing for a while. :)
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reader, Ps2girl123 +, writes (4 March 2010):
Ok, like i would text him and he will text back only 2 times and stop, and i would txt him two times and stop. One time i was straighht up and saaid listen if u dnt wanna talk its fine ill txt u later. was that good
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reader, dark_coco102 +, writes (22 July 2009):
well just like everyone else i have the same problem. I text him and he just doesnt text back. I even told this guy that i liked him too IN PRESON! I have tried the whole dont text him thing, but he never text back. I just ended up giving up...after 6 days of him not texting me back. I just dont know what to do anymore somedays i cant stop thinking about him, and other days i just go on with life. I just dont know anymore..
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009): I'm going through the same thing. Although, I just found out he has a girlfriend. Last week he said he needs to think about what to do next and he hasn't text me since then. I did text him though. Because he didnt reply I sent him a dismissive text. This was because i didn't want to keep looking at my phone for a text from him (i was trying to remove the expectation of a text back). This worked for a few hours but I still really want him to get i contact. I miss hearing from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): AHHHHHHHHH! so this guy acts like hes into me and grabbed my attention and now he stops texting me I am so desperate
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reader, The Doctor +, writes (18 January 2009):
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies...i have read all of your responses and there is one common denominator here...the men are not texting back! So maybe, the old rule to not call men should apply to texting...what do yall think?...afterall, it is still a phone...and who in their right minds want that kind of rejection on a daily basis? The Doctor
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): My Dear...When they (men) don't texted back, they are not responding...and it's just another medium to take control...before, we just had a telephone...land line...then caller ID, now we have so many ways to communicate and when anyone for that matter doesn't respond to your e-mail, text, cell phone and land line...well...there is no excuse! It means they just don't want to...and it's pitiful...and definitly not worth the anxiety...so my advise is to cut the phone off or if you can do that...don't respond...make him come to you...you deserve better...this a game he is playing...if i were you...i would take my bat and ball and go home! Set up boundaries and when he wants to play...he needs to bring the bat the ball and all the bases and refreshments would be nice! Do not compromise your integrity for anyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Right ok i have this problem too. But the thing is you need to just 4get about it. It is so irrelevant to the relationship. Boys never bother texting back because for us girls we enjoy texting and boys just dont. Dont make a big deal about it and just act like you dont care. Make him work a bit harder and chase you a bit more instead of you being clingy and in a way annoying even though you dont mean to. Most of the time they are trying to play hard to get themselves and act all cool. When us girls are with friends we dont mind texting our boyfriends but when boys are with their m8s they wont stand there and text their girlfriends. Just make them realise what they have on their arm and dont push them away because they dont text back. If you think about it; its such a minimal part of the relationship or if you wanna text him, send a text he can't not reply 2 ;) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): I have this problem too. We aren't official but close. I'll text him things just asking how his day is going and 9 times out of 10 he doesn't text back. I feel the same way bout "does he actually care" etc. I flat out asked him if anything had changed and he said no. We're pretty open with each other. But even still, one day its like i'm the only person in his life and the next 3 days i won't here anything from him. Its annoying but i do realize (despite what my annoying female emotions will tell me) he just gets busy with friends,and those friends will often make fun of him for texting "his girl" so he doesnt text back then forgets. its kinda a boy pride thing. Or he just plain forgets. Its common. Boys are stupid. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2009): the same thing always hppen to me and i stress all the time and its not worth i just text him 15mins go he hasnt text me back it makes me wonder ask him whats the deal if he like you are what and why he dnt ever text back??? unless he gt a jb that different!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. You should read that book. You need to find someone who wants to text you and talk to u just as much as u wanna talk to him. Don't settle for somebody who makes you worry like that. If he really like you he won't ignore u. Maybe he knws u really like him so he's taking u for grnted. Always play hard to get.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (28 December 2008):
 yes. i agree with the men's post.
We as women want them to show the same affection and attention that we show them.
However, if we do this too much, it can be overwhelming for a guy. So i say back off, and he will text and write you when he misses you on his own time. Not on your time.
So give him a break don't contact him for a couple of days and you will see he will be texting you again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): thank you so much for the advice im not going to text him the whole day today. you're right he's probably just busy, or/ and slipped his mind. I want ask him about it unless it gets bad because I don't want him to get up in my face. Thank you :]
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reader, ogkc  +, writes (28 December 2008):
Hi,It happened to me too, a lot. And when i cribbed about it, he got fed up, and increased his expectation from me over time in turn. And he always blames me for changing his behaviour.Overall, i suggest, that you lower your expectations. Guys dont believe in showing too much emotions by way of texting, or emailing or phone calls. Their genes are wired that way i guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): okay well i'm a dude and sometimes I don't text my girlfriend back because it slips my mind-like I'll look at my phone and press reply and then I start doing something else and I forget to write a message and other times I will look at it and just put it down. I don't always want to talk to her I need time for myself and especially if you and him just started going out.. Give him a break let him write you sometimes. If he cares for you then he'll write you. Try it out don't write him for a whole day and see if he writes you then if he doesn't feel free to text him the next day asking him why and see his response
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