He doesn't seem to understand that he is disrespectful to me!

A female age , anonymous writes:

Will try to make this short as possible. Been together for 17 yrs, married for almost 8, seperated now for a year. He has drug/alcohol/gambling/porn (and or seductive pics of ppl on is facebook)issues. Says he hasn't drank in a while, but I know he is still using RX meds. He has had an emotional affair, and has had inappropriate conversations with an old high school sweetheart (he looked her up), but he says that is not a form of cheating. I have a problem with him subscribing to alot of Wrestling Divas (seductive pics, etc), and tells them how sexy they are, etc. He says I am the only one he wants to be with and I am his one and only. Yeah, ok. Tried to explain to him when he gawks at stuff like that it is disrepectful to me and makes me feel like I have to compete - and we ALL know that is impossible. I've been going to counseling for over a year, we do not go together as they will not counsel us as a couple till he gets his RX drug use under conrol. He says he takes it like he is supposed to...whatever. I have NO trust in him - did I mention he is a habitual liar also? keeps things from me and still lies. Where do we go from here? Of course, he keeps saying over and over that he is not doing anything wrong, and he should not have to live his life one way because I do not agree with some things. So now what? More later on this....

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