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female
age
41-50,
*oveshercola
writes:I met a guy online a year ago and we have become fast friends. He lives 5 hours away but we text and chat on the phone and I tell him my dating woes, etc. We finally decided we loved each other and we'd see what happened when we got together. I drove 5 hours to see him and we had sex and talked, got to know each other physically. It was fireworks and fabulous the entire time. He told me I was perfect and that he loved me. I left the next morning with a kiss goodbye and a promise that we'd figure something out to be together.That was almost a week ago. I have not talked to him on the phone since. He replies to my text messages but is very short with me. I told him I'd come back out to visit this weekend and he told me he wouldn't be there but gave no indication of where he was going. I mentioned the next weekend and he said that would be fine. He asked me how the sex was, but has only told me he loved me after I pulled it out of him and when I told him I missed him, he said nothing. He told me he's been busy and that I keep assuming the worst and assuming he only wants one thing because I've been burned in past relationships and that bugs him. He told me he knew he shouldn't have had sex with me because now my 'guard is up.' He always answers my calls when I do call, whether he is at home, a bar, a friends but when I went out to see him, I never met any friends or family or saw where he lived, even.I don't know what to do. I am really deeply in love with this man. He is everything I ever wanted in a partner. Do I keep texting him and bothering him? Ignore him for awhile and see how he acts? Or do I accept that it was just sex and it is over? He didn't pressure me to have sex while I was there at all - it was my idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): He seems a bit of a mysterious sort. I honestly think this fabulous sexual encounter was for him a classic case of 'Wham, Bam and Thank You Ma'am'. Good at the time, but he doesn't really want to repeat the experience.
Were you used? Most probably, but it was good fun wasn't it? You enjoyed it? Put this one down to experience - if he wants you he'll get in touch with you - and soon. If he doesn't, well, he doesn't!
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