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writes:I have been with this guy for about 2 months now and I think I love him, and I know he loves me. In the first month and a half or so he put lots of effort in.. telling me I was beautiful, telling me he loves me etc.. Now he doesn't put as much effort in as I do, and I feel like his feelings for me aren't as strong as they have been. I have tried telling him, but I don't think he understands what I mean. Any advice would help a lot! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks ... great advice!!!
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reader, Man-of-questions +, writes (12 December 2010):
It's simple. You need to make sure you spend less time together. Me and my girlfriend had this problem, and it simply comes from being too close to each other. You begin to cramp each other's style, but if you just see each other for a day or two of the week, it'll be a lot easier. Judging by your age, it shouldn't be too hard to do that.
If you do live together, just try and vary up the things you do together and allow lots of time to do your own things.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 This is particularly true at your age, but really is constant at any age: novelty wears off. Even if he marries you, raises children with you, grows old and retires with you and is madly, passionately in love every day of his life, he will STILL tend to mellow out. Those first few weeks are exciting, new, dangerous, unpredictable, wonderful and keep a guy (and let's be honest, women are the same) on his toes. He'll sing songs, give gifts, make plans, do anything for you. But when he gets comfortable and starts to find his stride in the relationship, you settle into a calmer but stable situation. He CAN'T be exciting every day. It's not possible.
Granted, sometimes a man gets TOO comfortable and stops putting in ANY effort, and yes that's bad. But you can't expect the same level as the first couple weeks to last forever.
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