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writes: I know this is yet ANOTHER complaint about porn, but i'm just trying to understand my fiancé. Before me he had not had a for filling sexual relationship (i.e barely ever did anything sexual with his girlfriend). I was aware he watched porn before we did anything sexual and didn't have a problem with it, because I also did. When we started having sex I stopped because we were (and still are) having sex very regularly, about 5 times or more per week.When I first found out he was still watching porn I wasn't upset I just assumed he wanted to fantasise about something I wasn't giving him. We discussed sex in more detail things he liked and I did everything we discussed for him. He claimed ' I never realised it could be like this, you've given me everything I've ever wanted'.I continue to try new things to please him, as I enjoy that. I give him all the things he wants yet he still watches porn? I don't have anything against porn but I feel a bit cheated than I put so much effort into our sex life and he still feels it necessaries to watch porn - when he says he doesn't masturbate to it because we have a lot of sex? So if he isn't using it as a visual aid what is he using it for? In one discussing he just claimed it was a habit from his old relationship, but I still don't really understand and am beginning to get fed up. Thanks for any comments :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Thankyou for your answers :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2010): Hi!
I feel he's becoming addicted, if not already. Even tho you have a healthy sex life which is huge, his mind runs the risk of becoming stimulated by only such visuals thus when you take off your clothes he wont become stimulated simply because he's used to fantasy, and not reality, and that can def ruin the relationship. Its possible his "hobby" could have affected his last relationship and Id address this further with him. Porn is a stimulus that can be very dangerous and most, if not, all fall into something bad. I was most. Good luck.
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reader, shellygurlhun88  +, writes (3 November 2010):
I definitely think you should keep an eye on it. I give my man all the sex in the world and he still buys Playboys and watches free streaming porn on TV. But I know it's not an issue. For others it very well can be. If he's watching porn a couple times a week, let it slide, guys like to fantasize about the skinny big boobed blonde when they're dating a thick hispanic woman, vice versa, they are in a sense getting their cake and eating it too. Just because he's completely satisfied with what you are giving him doesn't mean he won't like to get off to other women every once in awhile. As long as it doesn't go further than that....I know I fantasize about other men and I love my man with all my heart. It can become an addiction though and that is when it becomes a problem. So keep an eye.
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reader, Tammy1205 +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Hi,
I think he should take into consideration your feelings. Let him know how much him watching truly hurts you. If he respects you enough as a woman, he will stop watching porn. If he continues to watch it, you need to ask yourself whether or not you want to be in a relationship where your partner fantasizes about other women. You are having sex with him frequently-there is no reason why he should be seeking pleasure out of looking at other women. Thats my opinion. I hope I've helped hun!
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