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anonymous
writes:MY Bf live in US and i live in greece so we just talk and chat everyday,before i told him that i hate those bit*** on his facebook friendlist and he removed them,later because of studying i deactived my facebook profile and then after 2 or 3 month when i check his profile again i saw a few girls added to his friendslist ! i asked about those girls and he just said " I dont know them ! even i dont chat with them ! "ok so what ? if he doesnt know them why he accept or add them on facebook ? i think he broke his promise :( what can i do :( ?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (30 September 2011):
 I don't think this online relationship is working for either of you.
Your 'boyfriend' obviously requires a lot of female attention and is prepared to sneak about to get it. And you have been rather demanding and controlling. Referring to other women as 'bitches' is very immature and tacky.
You cannot control what he does, where he goes or whom he speaks to and you'd foolish trying to. What you CAN control is what YOU do. You can decide to end this and seek someone local for companionship.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (30 September 2011):
You sound very controlling to me. If you are getting upset over the fact you don't like girls on his facebook then you are going to be in for a very unhappy life of relationships.
You can not expect him to delete girls from his facebook. You need to identify that YOU have an issue with trust. It is your issue, which YOU need to deal with. If you try and control a man in the way you are doing, you will lose him. Controlling and jealous behaviour is not attractive. Work on this and you will have a much happier, healthier relationship.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 You are very far apart have you guys even met IRL?
you have to have faith and trust and communication in an LDR.
you also have to have a plan and a goal to end the LDR...
what's your plan to end this LDR? is it the same as his plan?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2011): well yes hny ,he is far from me so im so sensiitive about him,i have talked to him before,i told him how much i hate it when i accept or add these kinda girls ...so he knows that but again he accept / add anoteh ones ! and when i ask about the girls he said " no i dont know them even i didnt chat with them,i did something so that they cant see my pictures and blah blah blah .. " ..so what do you think :( ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2011):
 Well first off what is it about these girls that you didn't like in the first place? What was it that they done to make you feel threatened and that you wanted them to be removed from his friend list? Do you trust your boyfriend?
To me it sounds like you are very insecure and a little bit controlling. Did you have good cause to ask him to delete these girls? Did something happen with one of them?
I guess he may be lying to you as am sure he does know these girls or else they wouldn't be re-added on to his list. You need to talk to him again and tell him how you are feeling. Long distance relationships are extremely hard and if you have trust issues at all well then it is never going to work
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