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*ristina kumar
writes:Hi guys, so I started seeing this guy.. he lives 3 doors down from me! We started chating about a month ago he put his number on a piece of paper and left it on my car so he made the first move! Seeing him everything fine! But all of the sudden he stopped talking to me for about a week or so.. had no contact whatsoever! So I left it.. anyway contacted him about 3-4 days ago and said what u been up to why hav you jus cut me off? He replied saying I was annoying and in his skin to much.. If im honest I dont think I was.. well anyway that got sorted and we started chatting again..I seen him that night and we both had a couple of drinks.. he was much more drunk than me.. how can I out this? Well we had sex unprotected.. he did pull out but now im scared I could be pregnant I dont think I am but there is a chance as I was due on my period! We spoke the next day and that I said look we had sex without protection.. all he said was I hope you havnt given me anything I said dont be stupid he txtd back said ok. And now he hasnt spoken to me.. I dont know why? Have I scared him off again? What do u think hes thinking? And what should I do? Please help..I do really like this guy his family are lovely and I would like things to go somewhere with him but how?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2013): This guy is a jerk, you need to take some time and realise that you need better. Someone who insults you, then has drunken sex with you, then questions you on whether you slept around? You're not going to date his family, it's him you want, and at the moment you are a piece of meat. You want to sleep with someone who cares about you, and preferably sober, not have unprotected sex with you then throw you on the curb. I hate to say it, but I don't think he is going to take it to a relationship, and if he does, and this is how he treats you....... think about it long and hard, re read what you have just told us here, and think what advise you would give this if it was not you. I think you will find the answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): First of all, you had unprotected sex while you were drunk.
Your main concern should be whether you contracted an STD or if you're pregnant. That guy doesn't care one way or the other about you; and initially he told you you're annoying and you get under his skin. He might also add that you are irresponsible with your body as well.
You can get a pregnancy kit for early detection of pregnancy. If the test is positive; then you will need to see a doctor for proper testing, and to be checked out for HIV or STD infection.
It's probably just a scare at this point; but take all precautions.
If you're smart, you'll know better than to take such a risk again. NEVER HAVE UNPROTECTED SEX!!!!
As for wanting to be with that boy!?
Really??? You can't be serious?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Why did you have sex with him? And unprotected to top it off?
You guys are not even sorted as far as whether you have a relationship or not, he dropped talking to you because he thought you were annoying?
I think you need to SLOW SLOW down. First You NEED to stop having sex with him. Specially since you have NO clue where you two stand. Secondly you NEED to figure out to use some kind of birth-control unless you WANT to get knocked up.
You ACCEPT him treating you like dirt, why?
He told you HE hope YOU hadn't given him anything? THAT is implying that he thinks you have std's or sleep around. That is NOT a good sign. Because he SEES you as a roll in the hay NO more.
I really don't see anything in your little post that makes me think this is a good guy AT ALL.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 July 2013):
 oh honey he's not interested in you the way you are in him.
he got laid and without a condom so he probably has done it before and he said "i hope you haven't given me anything"
I would go get tested... he may have an STD that he gave you.
also the most fertile time (although anytime you have unprotected sex is a gamble) for a woman is about 2 weeks before her period is due not just before....
call the doctor.. get tested for STDs and pregnancy (although it's really too early to know if you are pregnant)
and do not expect to hear from this guy again and do not have sex with him.
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