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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we are more than happy. But... he comments on other girls and I've seen him looking at them too. I know he loves me and I love him, but a few days ago he made a comment about someone I know, 'she's put weight on now, her bums about 4 by 5 meters'. so I replied 'i wouldn't know I don't look' trying to seem like it doesn't bother me but deep down it hurts bad. I don't know what to do... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2015): I think your boyfriend has run out of things to say so he sits in a bar or cafe generally eyeing the females thinking of things that could be entertaining or stupid to say;
It just shows his mind is fairly empty and he may make a boring partner in the long run.
It might be a good idea to look for entertainment in a new way for example actually doing an activity rather than sitting in a couple bubble which has run out of words.
What your bf can expand his mind with is rather hard for me to imagine as people no longer buy records and all those hours of devoted browsing no longer exist as a couple activity.
You also cant be endlessly eating or kissing.
So perhaps as he is so good at noticing peoples shapes and sizes he could try drawing or making cartoons.
He sounds like a bit of a lost soul who has run out of money and run out of words but still wants to keep you around him, so perhaps its up to you to find some new inexpensive form of entertainment as he has no idea how you can successfully hang out toogether as a couple while not forgetting the rest of the world still exists.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 December 2015):
 It depends from what you mean by " he looks at other girls ":
Does he stare them down, does he check them out meticolously head to toes, does he OGLES them ? DOes it look like he is drooling over them ?
Then no, this is inappropriate at any age, and the fact of being an hormonal teen does not give him licence to embarass you- and the other girls.
If he looks at them....hey he is dating, he is not blind. I mean, things and people come across your visual field, it's authomatical, instinctive to fix your eyes for a moment over about something that's attractive . Or also unusual.
If your friend put on a lot of weight and developed a 20 Sq. Mt. butt :) - he noticed. That's normal . Your bf did not need to undress her visually to notice the change - he just noticed the change. ( And he chose to comment it in a rather unchivalrous way, but that's another story ).
What does it mean " you don't look " ? Yes, maybe you don't " look ", but if your 70 y.o. neighbour , for whom you have no special interest, all of a sudden shaves his head or grows a beard , you'll notice. By your token, then, if you comment : Oh look, Mr. Smith has got a big beard now- then your bf should accuse you of showing a sexual interest in him.
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