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writes:Even though my boyfriend says he loves me and lives with me I still find myself wondering why he keeps comparing me to his ex. He says things like "she was fat, i'm happy you're not" "oh its so nice you don't watch so much t.v, she always did", "your perfume smells great, hers was horrible". I'm having difficulty understanding what that is all about, granted its negative but still. Is he saying it because he is in fact relieved I'm not her? Is he saying it because he's thinking of her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): He seems to be very happy with you, only he does express it a bit clumsy. Tell him that you like so much to hear his compliments and also explain him thatyou do not want to hear anything about his ex anymore.Tell him that you understand that for a man it might be different, but that for women and especially for you it can take away all the feelings because you have too much imagination.
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reader, SoftlyCaress  +, writes (17 December 2008):
 Well kinda hard to understand men sometimes .. But it would piss me off by being compared to someones ex good or bad that would get old so maybe you should just tell him what it makes you feel like and ask him if he could not do it or why he does it then let him know it bothers you and ask him to please stop then if he does it it is quiet possible he isnt over her completely .. Im pretty sure a man wouldnt want to be compared to a womans ex.....
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reader, starfairy +, writes (17 December 2008):
 At least he's making comparisons in your favour...I had an ex who pretty much had the attitude, why wasn't I like his ex!!??
Tell him it's hurting your feelings, that you feel like she is on his mind when it should only be you. He's obviously chuffed to be with you, but probably doesn't realise that he's being insensitive :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2008): I think you have difficulty understanding simple English. What he's saying is that he likes you better than his ex - for a multitude of reasons!
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