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writes:I recently discovered that my boyfriend cheated on me. I found last night and me and him haven't really discussed it yet. I can't help but wonder if we ever will.I'm hurt and completely disgusted that he would do this to me. This is the lowest of the lows and I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about it.Today, I couldn't stand the thought of him any more, or looking at his things so I went over to his place where the door was open and threw all of his things in the doorway, when I started walking away, I looked back and he was standing there, but I kept on walking.It was truly heartbreaking for me. I keep replaying it over and over in my mind. Is me giving him back all of his stuff a way to say it's over?Apart of me wants to work it out, but apart of me doesn't. We have a lot of problems besides the cheating part and I wonder if this is relationship is even worth saving.He hasn't even called me to apologize and claim his forgiveness and plead his case.Will he ever call me? and if he doesn't, what does that even mean?
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reader, Luaris  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Yeah I just got out of a relationship like that myself. It is really for the best to just not talk to him again unless he comes to you. I mean, if he didn't even call to ask you you threw all his stuff back in his house in the first place he probably figures you found out and now he's done for. Move on, there's plenty of guys that would be better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009): ok i know its hard but maybe your really better off without him dont call him and have the strenght to put your head up high and make him see he is the one that has lost and you have gained your free and single and try to relish that fact he might want to talk if he knows your capable of handling this and you dont want him guys are strange like that he proble thinks you cant live without him and you will be at him think about his actions and you will soon realise hes not worth it and he will try to talk to you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow can I dicuss it with him if he doesn't call me? I really want to talk it out but I don't want to call him because he will probably shun me. I don't deserve that and I know it and I'm having trouble accepting the fact that it might actually be over for good this time..
Thanks for all your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2009): i feel for you but there alot of excuses for cheating none that are right of course.. throwing his stuff back at him isnt telling him its over its telling him your hurt.. he hasnt called cause he doesnt know wat to say.. u said u wer having other problems this cud be his way out hoping you wud end things so he doesnt feel guilty or a stupid mistake that he wants to fix either way you have to talk to him just give you a tip listen to him first then you have more insight on the situation
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