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writes:okay well i just currently turned 14 and i'm in a relationship wit a 15 yr old. But he live's in another town. And he currently cheated on me. But i got bak wit him. Now a 16 yr old asked me out and i don't want to cheat on my boyfriend. But he cheated on me once so wat's the harm?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2009): Don't do nothing back to him just leave him. He'll be hurt by it. Don't keep letting him hurt you you are too young to be going thru that cause that stuff hurts and i been thru the same thing
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reader, gaurav1jha  +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Either end up your relationship with him and then date the one you want, or stay in relationship and maintain the loyalty.
Its Your Choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): Ok i'm gonna hide my id, for this one, i'm not gonna say anything nasty but i really do think that cheating on a cheater is still wrong....2 wrongs never make a right :) been brought upon it and i stand by it...Cheating is still wrong no matter what context you put it in :) either ditch the lad and then date or just keep the relationship but do not cheat your choice, i would say ditch the bf as you shouldnt worry about what he is doing, once a cheater always a cheater! hmmm, maybe when your older you'll understand that when you date a cheater and forgive just once you actually say, go ahead date see if i care, i'll just take you back no matter what you do! if he truely cared about you he wouldnt have cheated :)
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reader, ladydette  +, writes (28 March 2009):
 Getting back at your boyfriend by doing the same thing won't make any difference at all. You're just trying to hurt him and the relationship as well.It would just lead you to a big mess. If the only reason why you want to go out with another guy is to get back at him cos he cheated before then you're cheating on yourself too.
Humans make mistake, I know it's hard to accept sometimes but your bf has feelings too. He must have cheated on you but forgiving him and forgetting about the past would be a plus to make him more loyal to you.
But if you're convinced that cheating on him is the right thing to do then ask yourself after going out with that guy if you're happy with what you did. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): No, you do not cheat. If you feel the need to cheat, then break up with him. Why date someone if you don't want to be with just them. You are young! You don't have to be together at this point. Go on several dates with several people, get a grasp of what you want. You will know the person you want to be exclusive with when you come across them. If you are thinking about cheating, then its not the right time for you to be exclusive with anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Two wrongs don't make a right. It sounds like you haven't moved on from the hurt of your boyfriend cheating on you. You sure you still want to be with him?
If you want to date this other boy, break up with your boyfriend or tell him you don't want to be exclusive anymore.
If you are having sex and you aren't being exclusive (or your partner has a history of cheating), always have safer sex; don't just rely on birth control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Don't do it. Trust me. You'll feel MUCH more quilty about it, regardless of how the BF feels (extremely betrayed -- the damage will be irrepairable). Revernge sex necver works well for women, because men and women think about sex diferently. If you do, you will always think of yourself, at some level, as a slut. Not worth the emotional baggage. One of my ex GF did this (not to me), and she never got over the feeling the feeling of embarrassment she felt. If you want to break up with your BF, fine. Move on. However, don;t play silly games that involve sex. You'll end up hurting yourself. Men think about sex differently, and not make an excuse for your BF, but a situation probably rose, and he was weak. Forgive him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Here is a clue, why have one boyfriend when you are only 14. I hope you are not sexually active and that is what you mean by cheating.
At your age it would be healthiest for you to date and know a lot of different boys and not settle on just one for now. This is the time of your life to do the things you want to do, to meet a lot of different people and learn about what you like and who you are as a person, not as part of a couple.
That is for when you are older and looking to settle down some day and start a family.....but that is just my opinion.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (28 March 2009):
Cheating on a cheater is still wrong...
If you really want that new guy, break up with your current bf and get with the new guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): well it really shouldn work since u say he live's in another town. Who know's wat else he does behind ur back. And i don't think a 16 yr old would do any better. Maybe u should just tell your boyfriend how you really feel and make him realize that you have other offer's and he can just hit the road if he doesnt like wat he's hearing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): I know it's cliched but 2 wrongs don't make a right, what he did to you was a pretty crappy but it dosn't make it acceptable for you to do the same.
If you want to be with this new just dump your boyfriend and go out with this guy. To be honest you're young and you shouldn't have to put up with a cheater for a boyfriend anyway.
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