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writes:hello. my partner of 3 years had just recently cheated on me with his ex gf. they never had sex but did other foreplay type things. he reakons he didnt come when she gave him head could this happen? and also i need advice on what i should do...thanks very much
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): Yah tha'ts cheating...Break up with him...I'm all for sex, but cheating is screwed up..I've been on both ends of it..and I'v learned. YOu grow when you realzie how many people around you, you end up letting down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): He cheated on you and you want advice on what to do. You are not married, you do not have children and so you have no reason other than blind love to stay with him after this insult on your intelligence. If you stay with him he will do it again because you are effectively saying "thats ok - you can get away with it with me because I have low self worth and just take it" and also you will never ever trust him again. Tell him its over. Because effectively it is.
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 The fact I the matter is they were both in a room behind your back doing something, a simple kiss can be classed as cheating you don't have to have sex or get a blow job to cheat. You don't even have to touch each other.
Cheating = adulterous: not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend"
all he has to do is two time you, as he did, and it's cheating!
It's up to you what you want to do now. He just humilated you and embarrassed you and also broke your trust. great boyfriend!
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reader, Courts4  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Hi this is madness, pls leave this guy now. How can he treat you like that.
So what! - He didnt cum , and its nothing ? ,Should you just move on and make as if nothing happend. ( i dont think so -no man cheats and expects to be forgiven ) if you forgive him now , he will always cheat on you. Once a cheater always a cheater.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 "I did not come" = "I did not inhale".. are you having an affair with Bill Clinton?
Guy cheated, how you feel about it, how much you love him, and how likely he is to do it again should be the basis of your next decision...
Ppppfff.. "I did not come", who cares, you cheated, if you got no pleasure from it then your stupid as well.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Your boyfriend purposely allowed another girl to put her mouth on his penis. If you close your eyes and imagine it happening... visualizing it in your mind, how does that make you feel?
If that doesn't bother you at all, or if you don't care... then do nothing and continue as if it doesn't matter. If it DOES bother you, then breaking up with him is probably what you should do.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 He "reckons" he didn't cum? It is generally something that we guys are pretty clear about whether it happens or doesn't happen. Not many shades of grey here.
I think that some of the other aunts are being a little harsh. He was surely just trying to maintain a civil and cordial relationship with his ex. It can be SO socially awkward to say no to a blow job.
Actually you're better off without him. Patterns repeat themselves. If he is doing this in his early 20s it is not a good sign.
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reader, baddogbj +, writes (18 June 2010):
He "reckons" he didn't cum? It is generally something that we guys are pretty clear about whether it happens or doesn't happen. Not many shades of grey here.
I think that some of the other aunts are being a little harsh. He was surely just trying to maintain a civil and cordial relationship with his ex. It can be SO socially awkward to say no to a blow job.
Actually you're better off without him. Patterns repeat themselves. If he is doing this in his early 20s it is not a good sign.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): oh boy another case of "i did not have sex with that woman." if she had been a prosistute she wouldve been paid for that service...
what if you caught your mother in that position...
what if the local principal/teacher and student were caught....is it sex. you better believe it. people have been classified as sexual offenders for less. registered and served jail time for doing that with the wrong person.
please its your decision what you do...but what he did was cheat on you. mal
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 June 2010):
 He must have a very low opinion of your intelligence if he thinks that lack of orgasm excuses the cheating. His stuff would be out on the front lawn if he were my partner. He can work on the relationship from a distance--the next few weeks will demonstrate the level of his commitment to salvaging the relationship HE ruined. Couples counseling if you feel you want to try to save it.
But him, OUT of the house, to my mind. Then you won't be subjected to ludicrous rationalizations from a guy who apparently could talk a dog off a meat truck.
Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 June 2010):
 A blow job (even an unsuccessful one) is sex in my book. This would be a deal breaker for me but it's entirely up to you whether you can stick around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): "he reakons he didnt come when she gave him head could this happen?"
What has that got to with anything? Is that some kind of thing he said to excuse what he did?
I'm not answering that part of your question because it is irrelevant, who cares whether he cam or not when he had another womans lips lovingly wrapped around his penis?
Pack your stuff and go, there is no excuse for what he did. Say goodbye and move on is my advice.
"It's okay babe, I didn't cum!" Pfffft! What?
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