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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for a little under a year. About four months into it, he cheated on me. I gave him another chance for a couple reasons- he has an alcoholic mom and i know that can affect relationships, and he came out and told me. Anyway, I need to know if I'm just being paranoid because he cheated on me, or if i should really be worried. He has a friend he talks to, and he said they have been long time friends. The first time i heard about her, she was drunk and trying to dirty dance on him, which he didnt let happened. Next, he told me he had only had sex with one other person, but it accidentally came out that he had had sex with her at a party once but it didnt work out so theyve been friends ever since. Then, he lied about talking to her once, which was after the whole cheating thing. I got really upset because i cant stand him lying to me now. Also, they always go to lunch when shes in town. I dont get why if they are such great friends, that she never wants to meet me. And i have seen texts from him that say things like i miss talking to you or stuff like that...but he insists they are just friends. i feel like im being paranoid, but i cant tell. Help please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): You already know the answers, my dear. Choose to spend your precious time on this Earth with a drunk and cheat, and make excuses for him, you will then lead a very sad life. Your choice. The next move is yours: What will YOUR decision be? Take responsibility for your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): yeah she knows about me, and its more of her that doesnt want to meet me. ive asked about her before and he promises there is nothing there, and he said even if she did like me i dont like her, i love you. he really has tried to make things better between us since the cheating,... but i dont know..i just get a bad feeling about her. and i cant keep bringing it up to him, it seems like he doesnt like talking about it, or he gets like annoyed because i bring it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): first off you are not being paranoid, if they had sex, and they tryed to date and it didnt work out they keep in contact and go out to lunch but you cant meet her? that should be a red flag for you am sure you've heard it before once a cheater always a cheater and you forgiving him for it makes him think that he can do it again she forgave me before she'll do it again, you simply cant stay just friends with someone that you had sex with before tryed to date things didnt work out but you can text saying i miss you, does she know about you? and is it his or her choice not to have the two of you meet? if its his... yea hes cheating, dont let him make a fool of you hes taking advantage of you trust and doesnt seem like he has any respect for you if hes doing that the two most important things in a relationship is 1) trust 2) respect and he doesnt seem to have neather towards you so why are you with him? let go and find someone who will respect you.
..good luck!
... sorry for the spelling had no sleep!
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