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writes:Hey,So theres this girl i like, and i can't keep her out of my mind, shes basically in my eyes perfect for what i like in a girl. i've had a long 2 and a half year relationship which totally broke my heart and any girl i've met since has been a complete psychopath. i do get attached to girls very easily but i've been trying to not since my breakup, but i've liked her for quite a while.anyway i've known her for a few years and haven't really talked too often throughout that time, sept at parties, where we've always ended up chatting all night, but recently i've been seeing her more often. we've had sex and got with each other on drunken occasions a few times throughout university and been texting more regularily recently.we flirt like crazy and anyone who see's us says they thought something was up with us or whatever.we went out to the cinema and she was all cuddley with me, but when i walked her home she refused to kiss me and said went in for the kiss and pulled away laughing saying shes not gona kiss me. which she does to me quite often when she's sober cos thats kinda what were like with eachother, insult eachother constantly etc, like banter.The problem is i know she doesn't want a relationship till shes older and she always avoids the subject whenever it comes up. I spoke to her the other day about it and she says she doesn't see the point complicating things, cos her main focus is her degree, as should mine be and she just wants to have fun - especially as it's so near the end of uni for us. which i think is quite realistic and tbh i don't really have time for a relationship anyway either. But i love spending time with her! which she said she loves too and that we get on really well. i said ok were friends but i fancy you quite alot, do you? and she went all shy and said "i'm not giving too much away!" and said she misses me if we don't talk for a few days. but then again when she left she did the whole teasing kiss thing. and didn't want me to stay round. she texted later saying sorry if she was a bitch..The way i see it is were friends with benefits or something like that, but i wouldn't mind that if it was more regular, and i could see her more. but i'm abit confused on whats going on, or how to deal with it.Do you think she likes me or not? is she implying she just wants to be friends now instead, cos she aint letting me stay round?is there any point pursuing anything?is she playing hard to get?shall i just continue flirting as see what happens?or just give up ?Sorry, i'm very confused! drives me insane lolThanksx
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 I think you are right. It seems like all she currently wants from you is to be friends with occasional benefits.
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