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writes:i found out friday that my partner cheated on me, he stayed away all weekend and when he came back he made the most feeble of excuses, like he stayed at a mates on the saturday and on sunday night walked around till monday morning and then came home, i new he was lying as i found a womens number on his mobile, i text her with an anymous message and then she rang me and confirmed my suspicions, he,d stayed there all weekend, i threw him out, as we had only been together for 6 months, i no he cheated on his ex-wife a few times, the only thing is i,m finding it very painful to deal with, i loved him so much and finding it very difficult to except as we wasn,t having any problems, i definately wont be taking him back as i no i will never feel the same about him, just want some practical advice on some coping strategies, thanx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): You can cross that bridge when you come to it. In the nicest way possible it would be a shame if you were pregnant to that fool.
Im so glad that you were strong enough to walk away, like you said 6 months is better than 6 years. I know you probably feel a sense of relief now that you have found he is still messing around with that girl.
Anyway, update me when you finally know on pregnancy, stay strong and have some fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni av just read ur reply, it makes so much sense, i didnt go back to him, i no i made th right decision, i spoke to him last thursday,{4/10/07}, i asked him if he was stil seein her, and yes e was, i cant compete with that and there and then i new it was over for good and that is the last time i spoke to him, i,m so proud of myself cos it wasnt easy, i no i wil neva be able to think about him in the same way and i told him that so it probably wouldnt av worked anyway and i can never take that chance, he done the ultimate betrayel, he hurt me in a way that no other man has, as the days go by it gets easier, i av only cried once since 4/10/07, i stil feel hurt but nothin compared to that day i found out he cheated on me, it was a massive shock. Slowly but surely i am coming to terms with it, i should no cos i,m startin to eat better and do the things i used to enjoy, yes he wil probably cheat on this women as soon as he gets th chance, i spoke to his ex-wife that weekend e went missin, she said she no,s of at least 5 times e dun it to er, i no she wasnt bein malicious as she has a partner whom she adores, so its obvious e is a serial cheat and CANNOT be TRUSTED, i,m wel rid, i do believe that th women e is with now has done me a favour cos i was only with him for 6 months, i,m glad it wasnt 6 years down th road, i,m not sure i wud av handled it if it had happend then. I have only one dilemma, i wasnt usin any contraception coz we was tryin for a baby as i said in my original question,its a bit early to tel cos my periods was quite irregular, god forbid if i am, i wil have deal wiv that if i am, one way or another, i wil let u al no asap,about that one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): The answer is NO :)
Believe me, I have been through that situation.. giving him the chances will no make any differences.
I just dumped my ex bf, just a few days ago.
I am 31, and he's 32.. and we are not teenager, yknow *LOL*
I know him since about 3 years ago.. and i still feel like, I dated the same person..he lied all the time, and NONE of his promises he did to me *sigh*
I cheated me 2 years ago, and I was very very angry with him. Then, a year after he wanted me back.., well he acted as if he had been repented.. still I said :"NO!" but we were still friends on that time.
Yet, in this march 2007, he "begged" me to stay with him.. well, he made me believe in him.. so finally, in August 2007, i said "YES!" but I told him, I will move and stay with him, in next year.. and he looked so excited. And guess what? A week after... he cheated me...
And afterall, I left him.. like a ghost.. i just left him, no goodbye, without a word.. and i feel great for that. That's the sweetest revenge for him hehehehe :) :)
By the way, the gal who is after me.. she's trying to get information about me.. hmmm... what a fool girl. "Go get him, and see if he can be faithful to you"
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell this is an update on my situation, i,v calmed down a bit after the initial shock of finding out he cheated on me, i have spoken to him and asked what he wants to do, and does he want to try again, he says he does and i do to, i,m not sure if he is stil in contact with the other women, i no he is not living there, but if we are to have another chance together he has to break of any contact with her, i no people will think i,m stark raving bonkers, but i truly believe we could still make a go of it, we are not teenagers anymore, he is 46 and i am 44, so we have to be mature about what we want, i think he may have self esteem issues that need to be sorted, coz i no he doesnt have much of an opinion of himself, but thats not an excuse and we will have discuss that, please has anyone been through this situation and has or hasnt it worked out, do you think i should give him another chance, i dont want to give up something that i think may stand a chance of working,
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reader, no1lovesanemo  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 u did the right thing....when my ex-b/f cheated on me w/ mybest friend i left crushed i mean he was my first for everything...i did the same thing u did and yes im only 15 but heyy u live 2 learn.....lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): You're brilliant. You will be much better off without him.Good Luck - welcome to freedom again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour definately rite, thanx, i seen him yesterday as i wanted to no what was happening about mortgage and other issues, he said "just get over it" he might as well have stabbed me in the stomach, that comment was the most painful, i shoved all his debt letters in her letter box and said this is what your letting yourself in for, dont say i didnt warn you, felt much better when i drove off in my car.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): Firstly, you have done the right thing and deserve much better treatment than that. Its easier to answer this one as you have an absolute certainty that he was with someone else, unfortunately it will hurt for a while, and you will question what is wrong with you and all that. But I promise you someone so much better will come along and you will wonder why you settled for him in the first place. Get back out there, meet friends for lunch or a night out and make yourself happy. Love will find you, don't go looking.
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