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writes:hi my name is ashleigh and im 15 years old. ive been going out with this kid who is also 15 years old for one and a half years. He recently cheated on me and told me straight up that he did, he hooked up with another girl. i respect that he told me right away but i never ever thought he would ever do this to me. he was with his friends and i know he doesnt really think when he is with them. he is such an amzing boyfriend and we've been thru so much together, SO much why would he do a one night stand thing and blow it all away? i love him more than anything in this whole entire world and i know he loves me too but now that he has cheated on me, he broke up with me. he plays lots of sports and weve always worked around it to hang out with each other and that is the reason he broke up with me. he told me he doesnt want a girlfriend right now and that sports get in the way its just too hard. he said he needs a break for a little but definatly wants to get back with me. ive been absolutly devestated since this break up, which was only 3 days ago. i love him so much and i would do anything to have him back. hes the type of guy that learns from his mistakes and wont do it ever again. however, i told him how much he means to me and all that stuff and he said he will get back with me but just not right now. he has been texting me first these past 3 days and he promises me hes not going to hang.talk.flirt.cheat on me with girls during this break. he wants to tlk to me only. im just scared that he broke up with me cuz of that girl and that if i leave him alone he will loose feelings for me and never come back to me. im worried that hes not going to care about me or miss me and start to get with other girls. i just dont want any other girl to see how amazing he really is. i love him with all my heart but is it worth waiting for him? what do i do? he texts me but how do i keep the convo going he isnt very talkative just sorta one word answers. is this bad? please help me!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyouu so much. were doing better now. i still need to gain his trust backk but hes been very good to me and we are giving each other more space, but not too much.
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reader, mossy  +, writes (21 July 2009):
heydont act differently towards him act the way you always would!just be cautious... let him hang out with his mates you cant control him if you show signs of that he defo wont get bk with you.. take it easy give it time to mend. dont rush back inta things too quick, he knows how you feel dont have to keep reminding him... he has his freewill up to him what he wants to do...dont let him give you lame excuses tho like no time for you because of sport thats bull if you ask me...play it cool hun.. it will fix itself sooner then you think just give a bita time and abita more space...mossy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell im going to give him some time. and i told him he needs to gain my tust back. he wants to talk to me and hes always the one to text me first but how do i act towards him? im scared that if i say im with my friends to him that he will go and hang with his friends and do something stupid and then forget about me. or he will think im ok and try and get me back.. idkkk!
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reader, mossy +, writes (20 July 2009):
well fair enough you know yourself best.. just dont trust him as much and dont hurry into things too much again you might get hurt and this time it might be gone for good!!
i wish you the best....
mossy
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys.
I've been talking to him on texting and standing up for myself and telling him things to make him feel horrible. I knoe the fact that he cheated on me kills him. and he is not the type of guy that would do it again. he's been texting me first. I just don't wanna let go cuz I'm scared of seeing him with other girls and if I say I'm with my friends or don't answer him I'm worried that he will forget about me and not tlk to me again. he said he wants to tlk to me and I'm not saying I love him and blah blah but he told me that he was thinking of me lastnight. I knoe there is no one else out there. and this isn't some teenage love bullshitt. I'm just gunna give him some time
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): i have been in a situation sort of like this before except my boyfriend did not cheat on me. He broke up with me and wanted to get back together but just not then, so i let him treat me badly, make a fool out of me infront of my friends and he basically picked me up and dropt me whenever he felt like it, i would be on the phone to him all the time crying telling him i loved him and looking back its the worst thing i could ever have done. when i realised i was worth more than that and deserved more i started ignoring his txts and calls and going on new dates, needless to say he didnt like this at all and was eventually beggin for me to get back with, which i eventually did and now we have been together for 3 years, he has really changed and knows if he ever did it again i would not take him back. The point im trying to make to you is that ur boyfriend completely disrespected you by cheating on u and now leading you on, looking back at my own experience i realised how pathetic i was and must have seemed, you need to show some back bone and stand up for urself and show urself some respect. The best advice ive been given is that u need to be happy by urself before u can be happy with someone else. by txting him and talking to him all the time telling him u love him he knows hes got u right wer he wants to, he can do what he likes but knows ul stay loyal to him! dont let him have that power over you. its seems like the hardedt thing in the world right now, i no cuz ive done it, but dont answer all his calls or wb to all his txts, start talking to ur girl friends and going out and having fun with them, once he sees how much fun ur having without him and sees what hes missing he will be begging for u back, and by that time u might be so over him that u might not even want him back, as hard as it is no amount of phoning and telling him u love him is going to work in ur favor, believe me. Treat him mean to keep them keen as they say, and thats what hes doing to you and its working so why dont u give it a try! give him a taste of his own medicine and hel come running...thats a promise!!! xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): the fact that he cheated on you and then broke up with you has to be really hard. im really sorry that youre going through a hard time, but hes not worth it. if a guy really loves you he would never want to hurt you, period. his one word answers can also be a sign that hes not really into the conversation and is just trying to be nice to you. the best thing for you to do is forget about him. if he still comes back after your break and has been true to his word and tries as hard as hell to earn back your trust then, maybe, give him another chance. but still i would be very wary. you dont deserve a guy like that and as much as you love him now, you will find someone else. spend some time with your friends, take your mind off him. the worst thing to do now is wallow in self pity and hoping that he'll come back to you a changed person. not to be patronising either, but at a young age sometimes people can get caught up with all the romance and sometimes do terrible things, like your boyfriend. you are still young, you will find another guy who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.take care and all the best xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2009): I am sorry you were cheated on, that must have hurt. If I was you, I wouldn't wait for this guy. I am sure he has some wonderful qualities and I am sure you've had some great times, but you deserve to be with someone who is faithful to you. It seems that he has made it clear that he isn't looking for a relationship right now and if you hang around waiting for him, you will become his "standby" and should you ever get back together, he will take you for granted and likely cheat again. The best advice I can give you is to go out and live your life to the fullest. Date, go out with friends, take up a new hobby, whatever. Just stay busy and should he come around for a second chance and you still have room for him in your life, then go ahead. You are very young, don't waste your time with someone you will have serious trust issues with. Watch the movie "he's just not that into you" it's funny and informative!
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reader, mossy +, writes (20 July 2009):
hey!!if you want my opinion i dont tink you should wait for him.. he cheated on you for god sake, however you say he did tell you straight away, that shouldnt without a doubt makes him back in your good books hun... he may be sorry but it sounds like he might do it again if he goes back to you.. sports is a lame excuse to break up with somebody hun! if he loves you and likes you this much he wudnt have broken up with you that quick....i dont think he trusts himself to be with you and maybe he thinks its best staying friends... as you said he doesnt do some stuff olny if around mates, thats him caving into peer pressure and acting like him.lv your blinded by love. you are 15 theres plenty of guys around!! get back to me if you want to ask nething else, dont mind at allmossy xx
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